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Where do I meet teens/young adults nowadays?
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this post was submitted on 15 Sep 2023
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What are your hobbies, go find where people do then together and join in.
If you don't have many hobbies, try something new that may pique your interest.
Unfortunately most people your age are going to be at parties, university, and sports. You're limiting your chance of success by removing those options, do it's going to be hard. You'll have to put in the work.
I'm no expert, as I'm also a cripplingly lonely adult, but I'd say it's not "limiting your chances" to avoid hanging around overstimulating situations with people you wouldn't have been friends with anyway.
Let me rephrase. The chances for friendships for people who enjoy these activities are significantly greater for people who don't at.
OP could force themselves to attend, and possibly make friends that way, but it's very likely the friends will want to continue to do those things.
I would also like to remind people that the way you are is not set in stone. You can change if you want to. I used to be an introverted loaner who worked on being extroverted and accomplished it. It's what I wanted though, I idolized extroverts. This may not apply to OP
Congrats I guess? Most people can't alter fundamental parts of their personality though. Especially if it's tied up with their neurological reality. Like, I'm autistic. I'm not going to be able to just will myself into not finding large groups uncomfortable.
Most people can change, and do. Most people can't prevent it. Change is one of the only constants in life.
You sound like you have extra challenges with autism. If this is something that is negatively affecting your life, I would recommend looking into a counselor or therapist.
Best of luck. To both you and OP.