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Edit2: It's a subjective perception I'm talking about. Are you offended? Why?

What's the matter, why can't men deal with me being sensitive and emotional? Is it because they struggle with me reminding them of having, too, emotions?

Edit: Do men think I'm weak when I show emotions? If so, why?? Why do women see it as a sign of strength when men are vulnerable, but men don't seem to get it? Are they/are we dumb??

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[-] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 78 points 1 year ago

Men are often socialized to believe that showing emotion is reserved for children, women, and the weak. They are often taught that emotions are in direct opposition to "strength" and "manliness".

Unfortunately, if men show emotion, they are often criticized and made fun of (often by other men), calling their masculinity into question. As if having emotions make you weak or less of a man.

Emotions are not a "weak" trait. Emotions are a human trait.

Men need to work hard to be supportive and accepting of other men showing emotion. De- stigmatize emotional men. Stop showing sensitive men or men who struggle or cry as "weak" or worthy of mockery. This is such an antiquated view and needs to be abolished.

Support your bros. Become comfortable with emotional expression. This will help struggling men everywhere, I guarantee it.

[-] Saraphim@lemmy.world 39 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Men show emotions all the time. The problem is that the only “acceptable” emotion is anger or resentment. People of any gender validate other peoples feelings based on their own experiences. Because women’s emotions are invalidated as weak or useless, women tend to be more sympathetic to others who experience that same invalidation.

[-] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago

That's my point: anger is an "acceptable" emotion for men, because it often coincides with the masculine concept of strength.

The "weak" emotions, though, are not acceptable.

Which is why OP feels they are more openly able to show these emotions to women but not men.

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