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[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 39 points 1 year ago

I don't understand how so many people are so bad at, well, this part of life

A. Don't make plans you don't actually want to do B. Communicate openly and honestly. If something comes up or if you change your mind

Some people are like "oh but that's hard and awkward" to which I say go fuck yourself. You're making the world shittier for everyone.

I'm so tired of living in a world where so many people absolutely do not have their shit together.

[-] PrincessLeiasCat@sh.itjust.works 37 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

ADHD is a hell of an impulsivity multiplier. Everything sounds amazing at the time…when it comes to doing the actual thing, it can seem like climbing Mt. Everest. Time also works differently for some of us (Time Blindness fucks up much more than just this one area of our lives). As a result, when we make plans, those plans are “out there” or “some other time in the future” or “not now”. So when it comes time to do the thing, you forgot it was ever going to happen. Dates and days are hard to keep track of, too. Things have either already happened, are happening now, or are some nebulous blob of “will happen at some point”…which doesn’t quantify anything at all.

As a result, when things go from “future” to “now”, we’re often caught by surprise and haven’t been anticipating it, so we don’t prepare. Maybe we planned to sleep in that day, etc, and when you get a reminder the night before, it can be very jarring.

I hope I’m not making this sound stupid, it’s hard to explain but it is a real thing. And no amount of reminders or calendars or alerts will “cure” it…they help, but you can’t plan for every occurrence and some apps won’t let you set multiple alarms a week out, a few days out, 1 day, hours, etc. It’s limited to 1 or 2 that are pre-programmed, and if you want more you have to manually input them all them every time. Not easy to do when you’re in the middle of paying your bill after a doctor’s visit with other people waiting behind you.

It sucks.

[-] moosepuggle@startrek.website 7 points 1 year ago

Omg you’ve described my brain to a T! 😆

The future is always some nebulous thing where some stuff is going to happen, but it’s not Right Now. Who knows when those future things will jump out of Future Land and become Right Now? Like, I literally got a C in pre calculus even though I Aced every exam, because I forgot to do my homework. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Thankfully smartphones with calendars and alarms now exist!

But navigation? I can find my way back to a place I visited just once. I never get lost, so at least I have that superpower 😅 🗺️

[-] vind@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Are you me? Literally everything you said has been my life 😂

[-] moosepuggle@startrek.website 2 points 1 year ago

Yes, I am you! You are us! Maybe we can be each others future selves and remind us when the Near Future is Right Now so we don’t forget things 😺💡😎

It’s late here and I got the midnight zoomies 😆

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