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Obviously, in any discussion about groups as diverse as men/women, it's important to recognize that these are sweeping generalizations and that individuals can vary wildly.
It's not being "sensitive" or "emotional" that most dudes have trouble with.
Most women probably don't consider it a sign of strength, either. Not the sensitivity or emotionality.
In my experience, most men are focused on something that is happening. A sport or activity, a task, whatever. Your sharing is most likely out of rapport and just isn't how they want to interact.
I have close male friendships that are very emotionally open, and others where it just doesn't feel right.
In my experience, women are different. Male/female relationships are already complicated and getting into preferences and other dynamics is pointless. It could be anything.
Assuming you're attractive/confident/wealthy/etc, there would be many women who would comfort you just to keep you in their orbit.
Assuming you aren't, there are many women who would comfort you out of a sense of maternal care and empathy.
Assuming you're usually friendly, funny, safe, etc, women broadly seem to be kinder and more interested in interacting in that emotional space.
Does any of it matter? Probably not. Before insulting all men you know, it might be better to consider that you might just not like to have typical male friends. Just because people don't like doing what you do, it doesn't make them dumb.