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Honestly like no amount of money will change the results if your dating profile is shit.
If you’re a whale willing to spend 500 on tinder, spend it on marketing yourself. New photos, personal trainer, hobbies and seriously important - new clothes that fit you.
Lot of single people I meet always say “I don’t want to change who I am”. Changing the way you look and feel isn’t changing who you are. Unless you’re actually as shallow as your outfit. It’s not lame to see what the trends are and even ask a salesperson of the opposite sex for advice. Putting yourself out there is all aspects of such.
Present your best self. Because that’s all a person swiping can judge you on. That 5 seconds.
This is good advice.
Also a lot of people really drop the ball when they do get a match. Some hot advice because a lot of people out there seem to need help.
ask questions. If someone asks you "did you see the Barbie movie?" do not just reply yes or no. That's not how this game works. Try "No, but I heard it was really good. What did you think?". Open ended questions are better. Imagine you are playing catch. Their question is the ball. You caught it. Nice! Now fucking throw it back.
ask people out on a date*. do not ask them to come directly to your home. Dates do not have to be expensive. Drinks, coffee, snacks in the park, whatever. So long as it's public and lets you actually talk, you're good.
put stuff you want to talk about in your profile. Do not leave your profile blank. Do not be "clever" by writing "no one reads this" or "I'm really two lizards in a coat." Your profile is your ad copy. Your profile holds your story hooks. Give the other person something to work with. "I love my friends" is not going to start a good conversation.
Exactly. Assuming people interested in this are guys. Dating apps are a women’s market and that’s just facts. Because of such their profile can be completely trash and they’ll get matches.
For guys you need to put the work in. I met my wife on tinder (ages ago before paid tier even was introduced). It was after a lot of trial and error on the app.
Your profile needs to show who you are in the best light, and really importantly to show you’re not dangerous