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Not quite, I have a group of male friends who are very comfortable with being emotional with each other and I still prefer opening to women because they are much more concerned and able to deal with it, lot of men still don't know what to do with it.
You're still describing the effects of toxic masculinity, just the 2nd order effects rather than the first.
Why do you think a lot of men don't know what to do with it? Why do you think a lot of men aren't concerned?
It's not some innate aspect of being a woman: it's a suppressed aspect of being a human that society has pressed out of men.
They aren't as used to talk about emotions and relationships so it's easier to go with someone that is.
It's no assumptions just facts
Yes. And the reason for that is toxic masculinity. That's the point they were making. They were explaining the why, not the what.
I mean sure but if you want to look more in depth it's not just toxic masculinity, there's also toxic femininity involved most men have been hurt by their previous partner who they opened up to and their partner then used it against them or even ridiculed them in front of an audience. Or women around them mocked them for being emotional and crying
What you're describing is still toxic masculinity and has absolutely nothing to do with toxic femininity. Men that have been hurt by their previous partners or ridiculed for being emotional, is toxic masculinity. This is because men are discouraged from expressing their emotions or seeking support, reinforcing the harmful stereotype that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. Men get hurt by women doing this because of the toxic view many men and women carry about masculinity and male gender roles.
Toxic femininity on the other hand, is a societal expectation placed on women to conform to traditional gender roles and stereotypes, like being passive, nurturing, and submissive.
Nope