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submitted 10 months ago by Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/196@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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[-] MickeySwitcherooney@lemmy.dbzer0.com 54 points 10 months ago

Because humans are social creatures, and we like to know that other people understand our pain.

For example, I might complain that I got a bad review as an actor. What I need is for people to say "Fuck that critic!" and "That really sucks man." not "Have you tried taking classes to get better?" Sure, that's objectively the correct advice but it isn't what even the most logical human wants to hear when they're upset.

[-] CoolBeance@lemmy.world 9 points 10 months ago

Okay this makes sense. I didn't realize that people feel tend to feel better when their pain is understood. Maybe I should give it a try sometime. Thanks for opening up my brain!

[-] walkercricket@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

Do men do that? I have the feeling it's exclusively women who do this, but the reasoning behind it could be as valid for women as for men. We're all human after all.

[-] tpyo@lemmy.world 27 points 10 months ago

You've never heard a man complain about something?

[-] walkercricket@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

Yes but generally, it's to find solution, not just to have someone listen and do nothing else. It's just a bonus I would say if the person listens as well.