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I think you misunderstood me. It's great you have a place where you can leave stuff and it doesn't get messed with. I don't have that in my life so if I want something to be the way I left it, I need to keep it with me like on my phone. I'm glad that you can use a calendar for your purposes and you have a safe place for it but not everyone has that so quit shaming people for having different coping strategies than your own.
And there you misunderstood me. I wasn't trying to shame anyone. Rather I was genuinely confused why people couldn't use a calendar.
When I first got my period that's how I learned to record it. If some emp comes along and wrecks everything all our data will be lost- but I'll still have my calendar (maybe). Menstruating people would have to learn to cope!
I just can't wrap my head around people's inability to adapt to changing circumstances. I'm not shaming them for it. Just surprised by the inflexibility and unwillingness to adjust
Edited out: "pulse" because it's redundant
Because a paper calendar isn't a viable option for everyone, which is how I started..
It's not being inflexible to understand that a particular option isn't going to work for you, or others. I'm thrilled a paper calendar works for -you- but for people like me it's not a viable option and calling us inflexible isn't helping.
Ok, fair, but there are alternatives as well. They have little pocket calendars, or you can scribble the date on a piece of paper and keep it in your purse/wallet/under your bed. Even the regular calendar on your phone can be used for this purpose- just put an emoji on the start date, or write a word like "appointment". If you have a pc or laptop there should be a calendar you can use, a word-type document or sticky notes. Or you can write the start dates on the inside of a box of tampons or pads if you use those.
Like... I totally understand the frustration that comes with losing something you're used to, but the world changes whether we like it or not. We have to adapt to the society that we live in, it isn't going to adapt to us. Again, that doesn't mean I think we shouldn't fight for change if we deem it necessary, but it won't benefit you to just be angry at it and lament what was lost