So follow up: what do we do about it? I've traded some stories with ladies in my life, and I've never quite understood how some guys are ok with themselves when they pull these kinds of things.

I'm not a saint, and emotions can get messy. It was tough having an ex who was financially and academically more successful than I. I dealt with it, just knowing she was doing her thing, and I was still more mechanically skilled than her. I dunno what one would do if their partner is better at literally everything than you.

If it should ever happen though, yelling at and degrading them seems like a waste of energy, and of a nice relationship. The whole thing is wild, frankly.