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Even with a good career and all the "adult milestones" I don't feel like an actual adult. I feel like I'm pretending to know what I'm doing. Anyone else experience this?

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[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

I don’t feel like an actual adult. I feel like I’m pretending to know what I’m doing.

That's the first step. The next step is looking back on your "mundane" adult accomplishments:

  • Finding and negotiating your housing
  • Making sure you (and possibly your family) are maintaining basic nutrition
  • Managing your finances well enough that the first two are not in imminent danger
  • Navigating though various "adult" BS such as contacting a bank or merchant about a process or payment in error, and chasing it through various channels until its resolved.
  • Identifying your next need and the starting point for how to go about getting it resolved.

Then you glance to your left and your right and see some of your peers doing magically better, but more importantly you see a chunk of your peers not able to accomplish anything in the list above. You see what you now recognize is your growth and maturing and their lack of it.

The second step is to realize that you are indeed an adult. This is what being an adult is. The situations change, the difficulty in scope or scale increases, but its variations on what you've done before and the second, third, fourth...hundredth iteration aren't as hard as your first attempt in your early adulthood.

You realize that there isn't a single defining threshold you crossed at some point in the past where you went from "kid" to "adult". You also realize that some people make it all the way into their 60s and 70s without ever becoming an adult.

[-] YoBuckStopsHere@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Maybe I'm rare but I made a bucket list in high school of things to do as an adult. Some lame but some cool.

Accomplished

  • Travel to Europe

  • Live in Europe

  • Get Married

  • Have a kid

  • Win the lottery (won $50K on Powerball in 2021)

  • buy a brand new car

  • eat at a world class restaurant

  • take a cruse

  • visit Walt Disney World (worked there)

  • be a tv director

  • buy a house

  • leave my shitty small town

  • live debt free

  • golf at St. Andrew's

I had maybe five I haven't completed yet but should be able to in a few years.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I'm glad you're knocking out so many items you listed you wanted to do when you were younger, but I'd consider about 6 of those "adulting".

[-] YoBuckStopsHere@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

High school me didn't know that lol

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