Why is not being alone in the universe a bad thing though?

There are possible concerns relating to the Fermi paradox. Perhaps there aren't many space faring civilizations because the most advance civilization exterminates others that they see as a potential threat.

But yeah, I also find it comforting to know our existence really isn't that big a deal lol. It just makes me feel like we should do what we can to get the most joy out of our lives while we're here

Maybe they’re also bickering and arguing about who killed who in the Guejenjdjja-Otoenenjda conflict, taking place in the desert of purple sand, with very geographically-literate Ghdisixoosbdbjzoakan college students obnoxiously cosplaying it in the quads

The arguments some people make is that if it's likely there's so many other civilizations out there, then why haven't we found any evidence of any of them? You have Great Filter and Dark Forest theories that try to explain it, both of which would likely be very bad for humanity.

But it all forgets that we really haven't searched much of even our own solar system in incredible detail, so it's very possible we either haven't looked in the right places, or don't have the tech in place to see civilizations