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ok can we talk about ADHD and sex? (aussie.zone)
submitted 11 months ago by wildwhitehorses@aussie.zone to c/adhdwomen@lemmy.world
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I am a singlish women who has a long term friends with benefits, but is looking for a more substantial relationship. The thing is my fwb is used to me interrupting sexy times to tell them what ever thought that just popped into my head. Thankfully they are spectrumy too. (Ok this usually only happens during foreplay) but I am curious is this a 'just me' thing or are there others and am I stuck being intimate with only other people on the spectrum?

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[-] 18107@aussie.zone 18 points 11 months ago

My partner and I will routinely "ruin the moment" with stupid jokes and off topic thoughts. It hasn't ruined our relationship yet.

You could theoretically just excersise more conscious control over what you say, but that often leads to exhaustion/burnout. It's so much better to find someone who understands you, and who you can relax and be yourself around.

[-] InquisitiveApathy@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

My partner and I will routinely "ruin the moment" with stupid jokes and off topic thoughts. It hasn't ruined our relationship yet.

This is my experience as well. Weird things get said sometimes, but it rarely ever ruins the mood. Sometimes it can slow the momentum though, but it ends up being because we're laughing more than anything.

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