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As people wait longer to marry over the generations, the divorce rate has increased and level of "happiness" has declined.
Causation yadda yadda yadda. You still can't actually disprove its why.
The divorce rate among millennials is decreasing in the US compared to earlier generations. That said, reducing it to how long people are waiting to marry ignores a lot of other factors. For instance, low income couples are more likely to never marry, their relationships are less stable, and if they do get married they are more likely to get divorced.
Another thing that's clearly unaccounted for is that people who divorce in their 20's can remarry... and do things differently when they're a little older. Meaning that their lived experience from their first divorce can lead to a healthier marriage later on in life in their 30's. It's entirely possible that WITHOUT that lived experience... they would have had a divorce in their 30's instead.
I could see that. As somebody who met my wife in my teens, I never lived on my own except in a dorm room. If I had a decade of the bachelor life first, I think I would have a very different perspective. I would have a different living arrangement to compare with.
As it is, my married life seems like the default. There’s no “it’s better/worse for this reason.” And obviously things are going well. It’s not like you should stick with a shit relationship just because it’s all you know. Unfortunately I think that happens way too often.
What’s wrong with the divorce rate increasing? Like, no joke, is that not a good thing? More people getting out of bad relationships seems like a better outcome.
If you look at the study the number one reason for divorce is "lack of commitment". That doesn't necessarily mean it was a "bad" relationship...
That’s just a nice way of saying infidelity.