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The transphobia stops now (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/196@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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This community is housed on an instance run by two trans women, focused on the needs of the queer and gender diverse community.

We allowed 196 here because we were promised the community is queer and trans inclusive.

If you're here it's because you're aggressively supportive of trans folk. Not middle of the ground, not "just asking questions".

If your response to that is, "yes, but..." then this isn't the instance for you, and by extension, this isn't the community for you.

tl;dr - Unambiguous support and inclusion, or fuck off somewhere else.

Edit - I changed the phrase "aggressive support to "unambiguous support", as there was some confusion over the intent behind my previous phrasing.

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[-] Velociraptor@beehaw.org 23 points 1 year ago

Can you explain the girldick thing? I'm a transman and that comes off as one of the many things that are low key alienating in expressions of support, but it's possible I'm just mistaken.

[-] m0darn@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

I'm not the person you were seeking clarification from but I took her comment to mean that she is a cis woman that's sexually attracted to women, but also enjoys P.I.V. sex. Therfore she would be happy to discover that a woman she is attracted to has a penis.

That's just my interpretation though.

[-] Velociraptor@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

How far removed from the instigating post is that? It doesn't seem all that different if we're immediately diving into fuckables and unfuckables.

[-] m0darn@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago

I think you're saying I didn't help you understand her position, fair enough.

I mean this post is a place to voice support for the trans community and she said she likes having lesbian sex with trans women. I don't think the statement was meant to support trans men, just trans women. Trans women tend to be the focus of a lot of the conversation. I think trans men and trans women have different experiences with transphobia and need different supports. If you'd like to talk about your feelings I'd be interested to learn.

But also, she's a lesbian so again it's not too surprising that she would center women in her comment.

I'm a cis het man that wants to support you. It occurs to me that the less time men spend thinking and talking about lesbian sex, the better adjusted they are. So I'm going to excuse myself from this conversation. Good luck out there man. I'm pulling for ya.

[-] MaryTzu@aussie.zone 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The original reference (which triggered the OP to post) is a cis man saying he wouldn't sleep with a pre op trans woman.

He said something along the lines that girldick is disgusting, I'm saying it's hot.

If that's problematic I can delete (not sure how that works on lemmy though). I would rather hear it from a trans woman though. If you want to discuss, go for it.

[-] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago

FYI, the person that you're talking about, is not the reason I made this post, nor were they talking about trans women or girldick.

This whole line of discussion is based on a misunderstanding of the original context I think

[-] Velociraptor@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Maybe using a cis bigot's words isn't the best way to show trans support. Hurts that you'd rather hear it from a trans woman. I guess this place just isn't for me or people like me. It happens. Pretty depressing though.