Please, I don’t accept hugs. I dont want kisses. Please, don’t touch me. There are plenty of other ways to show affection, I can do that, but please, do not touch me, I dont like it.

[–] Boozilla@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Nobody should force a hug or a kiss on anyone. As I replied to another commenter on here, as soon as he waved me off I dropped it and did not make an issue out of it. I respect your boundaries. If you don't want to be hugged, kissed, or touched that is 100% OK and nobody should pressure you into it, ever.

But try to understand that in the vast majority human relationships, hugs and the like are considered normal, healthy behavior. They are not considered a "creepy attack from a creepy creep". I'm not talking about random strangers copping a feel here. I'm talking about close friends and family.

Human touch is very, very important. Read up on Harry Harlow's monkey experiments.

I'm fairly convinced the lack of touch and general warmth in our culture is one reason we all hate and mistrust each other. I realize causes and symptoms get blurry in this arena (correlation vs causation and all of that) but it's fairly obvious people aren't giving or getting enough love and affection in their lives. There's so much hostility, repression, and isolating going on.

[–] exocrinous@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm talking about close friends and family.

My family hugged me when I was a small child. I'm an adult and I still haven't fully recovered.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I know this is a joke but my dad was excessively touchy and huggy when I was growing up and it's the reason I hate hugs now.

[–] exocrinous@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

It's not a joke, I am dead serious. I just phrased something unusual as if it were normal because I don't believe in upholding neurotypical norms.

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