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[-] otp@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 months ago

Thank you for sharing that. I haven't had the same experiences. I don't feel the same sense of judgement or anything in mixed-gender spaces, but I won't discount those who do.

I have close friends of both genders with whom I'd talk about those kinds of issues with.

I am confused as to why there needs to be a "men's-only club" for some of those conversations to happen, though. Those generally aren't conversations I'd want to have where strangers can overhear, regardless of gender. So I would just call a friend to go somewhere private, likely outdoors, or somewhere like a car or someone's home.

In my area, I do believe there are men's-only therapy groups and the like, and I hope that that becomes the norm around the world as time progresses.

Unfortunately, I think the bias towards women's-only spaces being normalized and men's-only spaces being replaced with mixed-gendered spaces has been because of the history of men using those spaces to exclude women (e.g. from career opportunities), or from behaving inappropriately towards women in mixed-gendered spaces (such as gyms and swimming pools).

I think there is a lot of work to go into socializing young boys and young men. I would almost be worried that male-only spaces would be somewhere where men "Don't have to worry about that woke/Politically Correct shit anymore", and then eventually feel like that's how society should be.

There is definitely a place for male-only spaces, but as I've never felt the need for them, I was curious as to what others wanted them for. So, thank you for that.

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