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Shower thought(?) : some labels are less helpful. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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Since starting my questioning journey, I feel like some of sexual orientation labels make less sense. I like girls (a lot apparently). I have always liked girls. Therefore as amab I am straight, I realize one day in the future "fuck it, I'm transitioning" and then I'm not longer straight. It honestly would make a lot more sense to use words like gynophilic or androphilic to describe more of what you're attracted to instead of how your attraction relates to you

Probably too in my head about it or something. I don't mean any disrespect in anyway. I'm just in a long unexpected journey of self reflection and used to view those a little more concretely.

Also, if I ever do get to a point of feeling like I should transition, I'm definitely coming out as a lesbian first and try to let them work backwards. It could be funny. Maybe it could ease the conversation along?

I'm rambling now, this started as (I thought) a kind of funny thought, then got too serious and I'll shut up now.

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[-] Not_a_cactus_fan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago

Well it does actually make more sense. The labels hetero and homosexual were made from the heteronormative perspective and are closely related to the " straight -> normal | gay -> disease " narrative. The term homosexual was used first to discriminate to mostly men who like other men, regardless of the modern concept of homosexuality. They didn't think much about sexuality, if it was different it must be Homosexuality or Lesbianism. The terms are just an acient relic from times of Hitler or Bismarck, from times when gays got regularly imprisoned, beaten up or killed for being gay.

The rest is just me Ranting about labels:

I have found that actually labels don't really make much sense. Many people are trying to find a label for themselves but can't so they're trying to force themselves in a drawer they later find out doesn't fit and at least when it comes to trans people in combination with sexualities people start to question the real meaning of labels. I am happy for all who have found a label but from my perspective it's just another way of putting people into drawers. Actually gender and sexuality is not static, but it's just another aspect of your personality that changes with time. Labels are a way of oversimplifying the complexity of our selves and while I do acnowledge that abstraction might be useful in many situations, we should not need the labels of the lgbtq+ community as just as the term homosexual itself it's purpose is to just discriminate and differenciate between people who are essentially to be seen as equal. It should not matter if I feel drawn to guys and girls as in the end we still have to judge by the individual in every case. Sexual and Gender identity tells you nothing about what a person did, does or will do, it doesn't tell you anything about what a person was, will be or is. I think our all goal should be to see labels as obsolete. We should not need a label to accept ourselves and others and we should accept ourselves and others as the indiviuals they are.

[-] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

I feel the label rant. It also puts up a huge barrier to some of us newly questioners because of labels that may apply, but more importantly, our perception of what the label "means" or how we/culture looks at said label.

Getting past that was difficult, but meaningful to be able to just, "how do you feel? How does this make you feel" without "do I feel like I am a [label]"

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