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there's a reason it's "hard out there" you know (OC)
(lemmy.dbzer0.com)
This comment section: "Actually I'm pretty sure the bike fell over for reasons unrelated to the stick"
I mean the premise is flawed. The "neckbeards" are not intrinsically unlovable but they are getting duped into being annoying and problematic to people.
When you treat the attention of any kind of people as a status symbol or a commodity to use for bragging rights or prestige for others it's not exactly fair to the people whom you are essentially using. You see the same principle with famous people. Being in any kind of relationship with someone, even friends, soley because you like what their association does for your image is a jerk thing to do
The people who do the mocking are every bit at fault for being assholes. Only when the person being mocked accepts the assholes premise as true and care about their acceptance do they also become an asshole in turn.
Yeah, this is the obvious "if you want people to like you then all you gotta do is be nice to them" issue that people keep failing to understand.
I'm a dick, why does nobody love meeee??
It's more complicated than that I think.
Like "being nice to people" is transactional. It doesn't really look at emotional needs. The so called neckbeards think they are being nice... But the issue is that nice is superficial. Nice will get you promotions at your customer service job but it ignores emotional need.
The fact so a contingent is so poisoned by so called "benevolent" sexism is a feature not a bug.
Be nice to people because you just try to be a nice person, not because you expect something back. It will pay off.
If you're an Intel type, then how about you go for nice, you start practicing some sports to get healthier, do less internet, practice mental higiene by not looking at opinion pieces too much anymore, go out, mingle, talk with people. Get hobbies, get a life. Start dating, don't go for "I only date tens!" Nonsense. Those are things that will make your life better.