having interacted with an austrian, whom i refer to as german on the regular (it's an ongoing joke) It's almost like that one time that one thing happened is a part of every german/austrias personality now. That explicit kind of speech is so heavily regulated that even merely mentioning it i've been yelled at before.

It's kind of like living somewhere where a mass shooting has happened, that you were tangentially related to. Nobody talks about it. But also everybody knows about it.