with a ton of that crowd, they really have no idea what strength is. but they so badly want to appear strong, as they assume that will make others around them think they actually are strong.

it's a sort of projection. they're weak, so they worry that others will perceive them as weak. it locks them into a constant obsession with appearing strong, so people won't realize how weak they are.

the fallacy in all that is assuming that other people care, most don't, as most are locked into their own various insecurities and are usually worried about how they appear to the world.

real strength, and other qualities, isn't worried about what others think. it's like being cool. you're not cool if you have to go around and tell others how cool you are. if you're cool, others will recognize that pretty quickly. if you're not cool, no amount of faking it will ever make others think you are.