You're a "patron of a crafter"? I'm unaware of any transactional element to this situation, and if there is no money changing hands, then you're selling yourself short. You, as much as anyone at the table, per se, are just as much an equal contributor to the game itself and your individual enjoyment of such, with just as much a say in how that comes about.

In a perfect world, you should be able to bring this up with the group and be recognized for the courage and trust in their friendship (much less, the maturity) it takes to do so. If that's not how it shakes out, the table clearly isn't for you and you'd be better off continuing your search for a game worth your time & effort.

If, after all this, the DM is paid for their time? Get a fuckin' refund.