No dude, the first guy wants an easy answer to how shit he feels, because an easy answer means an easy solution. Generally speaking, people don’t like having problems that are entirely outside of their own power to fix.

The second person doesn’t want the deficiency, they already have it and have been struggling with it for a long time and what they wish for is love and support from people, to have their struggle validated.

It’s like the difference between a successful day of back breaking work when you’re a slave, vs a day of back breaking work when you’re working for your own benefit. The validation of the self-work comes from the benefits you reap because of it. There is no validation for the exact same work if you’re a slave, because you didn’t choose to do the work and you don’t benefit either. A little empathy and respect from your fellow man for the good work you did that you were forced to endure for no benefit to yourself would be the only solace you can hope to receive and isn’t really a whole lot to ask for grand scheme of things.

[–] Mango@lemmy.world -5 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Ahhh yeah it's two different people. Guy 1 wants to find out his default state is dysphoria and guy 2 wants attention.

NGL, I personally would like to find out that I can just feel and be better on the regular with a simple fix.

[–] EncryptKeeper@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Yeah guy 2 wants “~~attention~~” support but he doesn’t want a problem so that he can get ~~attention~~ support. He already has the problem and simply wishes he had support from others. He also doesn’t want to be a victim. He already feels like a victim of his circumstance. The support from others would make him feel less like a victim and more like somebody who has overcome adversity.

[–] IzzyScissor@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

So you have empathy and understanding for yourself, but no one else.

Cool. 🙄