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As a transbian, Cis women and Lesbian Spaces scare me
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this post was submitted on 03 Aug 2023
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I experience a lot less of this fear, or at least how I experience it has changed a lot. For me a core part of the fear/discomfort was related to imposter syndrome and my inability to feel completely confident in my womanhood and my identity as a queer woman. Bottom surgery was a very big part of ridding myself of that imposter syndrome. My dysphoria used to make me feel completely invalidated, and that led to feeling like there was something preventing me from accepting my womanhood. It obviously won't be the same for everyone, and I don't think that most people would need bottom surgery to feel comfortable in women's spaces online and in person. But I personally do not feel that same discomfort in women's spaces anymore. When I meet with bigotry there I feel angry more than afraid. I just in general have a lot more confidence in myself and my womanhood.
It might be imposter syndrome, now that you mention it... Funnily enough, with my bottom done 4 years ago, I also feel completely happy with my transistion and I honestly don't even feel dysphoria anymore (except for rare instances), but yeah... this issue persists.
It kinda feels like entering these spaces makes me realize just where the differences between me as a trans woman and cis women are, those small little things that transition can't easily or properly fix