Especially the violence is always bad, violence never solves anything, just ignore bullies, avoid, do not confront, do not escalate attitude that has been being pushed for decades.

This is the result of good people not being willing to stand up for themselves in hostile, aggressive, and violent ways. Give up violence as a tool only used by the bad guys or by authorized individuals, then the bad guys will, once they have infiltrated and taken control for the organizations allowed to do violence, be able to use it with impunity everywhere.

Long ago, if you said or did things that are abhorrent to most decent people (as defined by the morals of the day at least) you're likely to get a fist in your face. Today, although these things are abhorrent to most people, no one is willing to just punch someone for most things.

Remember when Buzz Aldrin just punched the guy accusing him of participating in the moon landing conspiracy? If 20-30% of decent people were willing to respond like that to Nazis, racists, homophobes, transphobia, and other abhorrent groups, they wouldn't be bringing these things up in public.

But decades of this anti-violent attitude have resulted in a population who is largely decent but unwilling to act to preserve that decency.