I originally upvoted dark whatever instead of you. Coming back 2hr later I changed my votes because (metaphorically) as you said, it's not black or white, it's shades of gray.

In my youth I often thought of myself as an introvert, because, "I just don't like people." As I've grown I've come to realize that I'm perfectly sociable in the right crowd.

To that end, I've come to see myself as an introverted extrovert, it vice versa, because idk proper terms. But I'm much more talkative (for better or worse) around people I identify with, whereas if I were alone around a group of new people, I shut down and retreat to my safe corner.

People are very multifaceted individually and it's such a strange oxymoron that "there is no true ideal" is an objective fact, no matter how much we wish it to be so.

Unfortunately, until people can (on whole) see both positives and negatives per individual person/situation, and not just the dogma attached to each piece, we may never overcome this roadblock...