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Blåhaj Lemmy is a Lemmy instance attached to blahaj.zone. This is a group for questions or discussions relevant to either instance.

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This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.

I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.

I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.

At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.

I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.

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[–] muse@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Thank you Ada and mods. It's too easy to manipulate discussion and voting, which is why safe spaces were created.

[–] CapriciousDay@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Damn. I don't want to engage with them either now. Are there any better UK instances? I'm getting sick and tired of the Starmer apologetics and general meltery on there anyway.

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[–] Sir_Premiumhengst@lemmy.world 10 points 2 weeks ago
[–] UpperBroccoli@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 weeks ago

This is the way.

[–] Kimiko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

These are tough calls to make. On the one hand I applaud the step taken to protect the community hosted by this instance, on the other I also find that simply cuting ties and conversation only furthers the divide.

Sure we should not have to defend the validity of our existence, and also realise that most hate leaves little place for heathy discussions. But in avoiding their echo chambers I find we quiet ours too, we renounce our visibility for our comfort and theirs.

I guess I wish there were other ways to warn users about potentially triggering instances rather than outright defederating, but I do understand your main motives.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago

You are absolutely welcome to maintain an account on another instance and here if you want to have the option of having those discussions. And I don't mean that in a "Well, there's the door" way. What I'm trying to say is that if you don't want to have the types of conversations you're talking about, it's currently very hard to find spaces that make that possible. That's why lbz exists in the form it does. However, I completely understand that some people do want that opportunity. And if that's you, you're welcome to maintain multiple accounts. You'll always have a space here, but you can also use instances that give you access to less protective spaces.

Thank you Ada!

[–] pewgar_seemsimandroid@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

i was subscribed to a few communties there, might create a account there or a federated instance for those.

[–] MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)
[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago
[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 weeks ago

Genuine/ignorant question: why?

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