Am I the Asshole?

i’m 37F, mother of three.

this takes place sometime in autumn 2018. marie, our oldest (12F) was in the sixth grade and participated in a lot of after-school activities, social events, and hangouts with a few good friends.

because we would have to have contact from her to find out things, especially when she couldn’t remember at that moment, our husband and I decided we give her a phone.

rather than give her a brand new phone, we decided to give her my husband’s old android phone as he just got the phone he currently had in 2017.

leo (9M) has always been quite easygoing and did not mind that much. I think he was happy for his sister. he also didn’t quite need a phone and only a few kids in his grade had phones (too young, if you ask me).

emma (8f) was more of an outspoken kid who visibly got angry marie had something she didn’t. being 8, she said she hated us and stormed into our room but later apologized. she said she just felt upset because marie got to have a phone, something emma always wanted, but she didn’t.

i told her once she started to need one, especially in the upper grades, she and leo could get some.