The lighter side of ADHD
Makes sense. I either have forced myself to do tinyiest bit of work some days. Other days music is listenable again and I basically finish everything and i keep going until 4am. It really depends on how interesting I make the project for myself and how I break it down. And how doing work is procastinating from doing something worse.
How to get out of looping option 3 over and over?
I've started the 40-20 rule which has helped me a bunch. I've always heard that taking breaks help you learn or get done better but I'd never heard actual numbers put to it. Now I have 2 timers I cycle between, 40 mins of work or dtudy, 20 min break, adjust as needed (40-20 is the default, some people do better on a slightly different ratio, just takes a bit of trial)
I miss getting 40 hours of work done in 3 hours regularly, but it catches up eventually until you loop option 3 endlessly. Just enjoy it.
Also see: do three people’s jobs alone but struggle to do just their own…
I got fired from a programming job because I wrote code for maybe 30 minutes a day, but spent all my other time going from desk to desk helping other devs find problems and get unstuck. It was maybe the most productive I've ever been on a job.
That day, I learned a valuable lesson: do an hour of work a day (or week), then sit at your desk pretending to work while parceling out the stuff you did. Never help anyone. My career has been much more successful since.
The truth of this is incredibly depressing. There are some people who's best skill is elevating others but that's a thing which is impossible to quantify.
The accounting team will quantify it easily. It just won’t be accurate.
This is why work from home is such a blessing. In an office I could never be able to fuck around as much as I do, but I was definitely less productive overall because I wouldn't do the hyperfocus periods because I was recently l resentful about being at the office.
Pretending to do work takes time and energy away from actually doing work.
Not to mention that there's a 99% chance someone will find you when you start doing 40 hours of work in 8 hours, interrupt you with random shit from their stream of consciousness, and send you straight to goofy dragon #3
I envy the turtles but I was born a hare.
I feel very fortunate slow that and steady doesn’t actually always win the race.
I alternate between each one of the every day of the week and so the third never becomes apparent because other days compensate for it
So... on average more work don than I get in a week?
On average nothing is done compared to normal people 👍
N-nah, random things where "normal people" think it's normal to just stop and get stuck you'll find the solution, because you are used to making hundreds of attempts at the same thing and they are not. Especially if nobody told you to help them with that. Especially when you have your own urgent tasks.
On average nothing is done compared to ~~normal~~ boring people 👍
boring people, because there's no surprise with them, they have a task and like... just do the task? Pff, where's the fun, stress, and stuff in that?
They keep the fun at leave the "stress and stuff" for you
Personally I don't get the 4 hours one every day, nor the 40 hours one every week. So not necessarily.
Of course there's the ultra rare week where you hit the 40 hour mode 2 or 3 times
Same... For me, number 3 is the default, until it gets to the point where my job is on the line. Then I do 40 hours in a day to catch up.
No.
The vast majority of ADHD memes made by self-diagnosed people who have no idea how it actually works.
They're the same as the type of people who claim they have OCD because they like to clean up right after eating. While in reality people with severe OCD can end up standing outside their front door in the rain and get soaking wet for 20min, because they have to unlock the door in pattern they can't get right.
Well. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, just BAD and ASD. But judging by comorbidity stats and such, I might be and that'd be good enough.
I don't think the pic is wrong. It's just that the middle dragon happens once a couple weeks or months.
What you describe as "severe OCD" I sometimes get - like didn't ever visit the university library for my books even once in my second attempt, because I didn't know where it was and didn't understand quickly from asking and the information given seemed inconvenient and there seemed no correct moment to go there. Since it was night school, what I missed were a couple brochures and the rest can find in the interwebs, but still. Maybe that fits under ASD, just - it all is very individual, various traits in different combinations can be diagnosed differently, ADHD too has that problem of plenty of idiots thinking it's not real and exists for lazy incoherent addictive people to get high, and BTW being lazy, incoherent and addictive is very ADHD, so why would that disqualify one ... .
So - can we please not gatekeep? I thought I don't have BAD and ASD when I was a teen, because I'm not diagnosed and it's just chaotic personality, strange spirit and emotions and hormones. 12 years later I got diagnosed with those things exactly. About ADHD I heard someone else talking too, and thought it's a little thing that passes when you grow up. Whatever.
The vast majority of self-diagnosed people are women and POC because they have historically been underserved and dismissed due to standards of ADHD care being exclusively modeled on boys from decades ago and systemic inequality in modern medicine leading to poorer outcomes in non-cis white males.
The 'everyone has ADHD these days' sentiment comes from the gatekeeping of ADHD behaviors to male stereotypes in media. Because girls are socialized differently and given less leniency for presenting the same behaviors, they are forced to mask better by internalizing their symptoms into depression and other mental health issues later on in life.
This kind of is no more than social media backlash against women coming out speaking about their experiences with systemic inequality in medicine, only to be told that this is all a social media fad in their heads. Speaking as someone who had to needlessly suffer for 3 decades before finding a (female) doctor who gave a damn about it. When I finally got medicated, I just broke down and cried. Out of relief from finding out what living with executive function and peace on my own was like, and out of bitterness that this was withheld from me and many more women out there.
So don't ever tell self-diagnosed people they don't know how their own body works. I'm sick and tired of hearing this argument from people who haven't been medically gaslit to no end by doctors who don't treat their patients like reliable witnesses to their body. This goes so much further than ADHD. I have had other severe misdiagnoses that put my life at risk because of doctors' egos who would rather get you killed than admit they're wrong for dismissing your symptoms.
So don’t ever tell self-diagnosed people they don’t know how their own body works.
And that's where you lost people.
Absolutely not
im personally stuck in nothing done mode
Just need a tight deadline or a bad performance review to fix that right up
eh, nowadays thats a sure way to get halfassed code out of me. not even rest fixes me anymore.
Sounds like you're burned out then ... How long in your role?
ive been doing similar shit for more than a decade. excessive hours, never been properly paid either. of course i'm burned the fuck out.
I did the middle one today. My head is smoking. Kinda stoked to do the same again tomorrow. But we all know this isn’t how it works.