Decent folks usually back seat aesthetics to personality anyway.

The meme is still funny. I hobby bird watch, and it's very true in the bird world. The male birds are colored brightly if they have good nutrition, they are healthy, so the females mate with them. The female birds are boring so they blend into the environment, so they hide better from prey as they do the egg hatching thing.

I went on a first bar date with a fella once, and I couldn't get it out of my mind he reminded me of a cocky rooster, so boisterous. Too much personality for me, I chose not to go out with him again. A lid for every pot.

Aesthetically speaking, not standing out is totally fine. Personality speaking though, you have to be standing out.

What makes you unique? What hobbies do you have? What things are you passionate about?

People who are passionate about things are way more attractive than people who are not.

Give me a date with the person who will talk my ear off about trains, rocks, dinosaurs, etc anyday over the person who has no passions and no hobbies.