I tried to read it a while back, but it is very clearly of it's time. It's not bad, but I personally think that polyamorous/open relationships have come a long way and I would be more inclined to consult with those in the queer community before using the book as a blue print for an ethical multiperson relationship.
this post was submitted on 23 Jul 2025
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Thanks so much. I'm not adverse to ethical, mutually consensual polyamory, but if that's a thing where I live, it's very closeted. It was just recommended to me by a friend who was exploring polyamory at the time. They continued practicing monogamy for a decade or so but recently told me they are considering it again, told the person they've recently started dating, who expressed happiness for them. Of course, being my friend, I am ecstatic my friend's friend expressed happiness for them and encouraged my friend to explore. So I want to learn more to support my friend, who isn't in physical proximity to me, but across the globe somewhere, now. Where I live, a lot of ostensible monogamous relationships with non-consensual side relationships is the norm. I got tired of this foolishness a couple of decades ago, but became volcel after my last one-sided mono relationship ended, ~four years ago.
I'm glad your friend has such a supportive friend in you. To support your friend, I would ask after their partners as you would ask about anyones significant other. Just ask them about their life in a curious empathetic manner. But you asking about this probably indicates that you already are that kind of friend.
Thank you so very much for your kind words. They always tell me, in their own time, and then yes, I'm always interested. I've had this friend for three decades. One of the treasures money can't buy.