I feel like, as an average white ~40 year old guy in a major city, getting dates and sex wasn't that hard. But from what I've heard, the bar is extremely low. Like, all the woman I talk to (and the men who date men) have horror stories.
I think my worst dates were like... they mildly insulted me.
Neither of those come close to, like, various threats, violence, boundary breaking, and unsolicited dick picks that seem too common.