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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 4 points 2 months ago (5 children)

I feel like, as an average white ~40 year old guy in a major city, getting dates and sex wasn't that hard. But from what I've heard, the bar is extremely low. Like, all the woman I talk to (and the men who date men) have horror stories.

I think my worst dates were like... they mildly insulted me.

Neither of those come close to, like, various threats, violence, boundary breaking, and unsolicited dick picks that seem too common.

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[–] lowleekun@ani.social 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (6 children)

This is a pretty stupid take. Just stupid. Not much to add to this.

Much of my energy is spent trying to be an enjoyable presence and it god damn works as people seek my presence. Does this lead to sex? No, why would it?

Being an enjoyable presence in order to get sex makes absolutely no sense.

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[–] DarkCloud@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Don't try to be something you're not.

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