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These comments…

what the fuck is wrong with you guys?

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Community rules are community rules, and you can either follow them or get banned from the community. How is ‘women only’ any different?

As for the excuse of visibility: the rule is very often in the title, and the initial post, yet not followed.

As for the excuse of how they can tell: well if they can’t, okay, you evaded detection. But posts very often declare “I’m a guy and this is my take…”

I honestly don’t get it, especially on an internet “refuge” like Lemmy where users should be sensitive to persecution and the importance of safe, moderated discussion spaces.

Make it a private group. If it shows up in the general list, it's a free and public spot.

Do you have examples of women only communities? Because I have probably inadvertently done so. Admittedly, I probably also haven’t read the rules as my mobile client makes that stuff kind of hidden.

I love the posts that come out witchesvspatriachy for example. That’s definitely female dominated, but I didn’t read the rules because, well, they didn’t show up in the all feed, so I don’t know if I shouldn’t post.

I also think it’s good to get some outside opinion, occasionally, but female spaces need to remain female dominated for good reason.

/me shrugs. Sorry if I’ve been the point of your annoyance

Are women allowed to answer this question? It's directed at men.

As a woman there's no way you are not aware of exactly why that happens and the kind of guys that would do it on purpose...

On accident? State it more clearly? Maybe throw in an explanation about why it's that way so you don't end up endlessly arguing the same stuff forever.

Damn that's some turbo manmansplaining right here xD

What's wrong with you? Are you OK hun?

For the same reason why women can't stay out of male-only spaces. Women have been demonizing male-only spaces for decades. If male-only spaces are bad, female-only spaces are bad... I see no other 'equal law for all genders' reasonable outcome

Look, I'm not about to post comments myself in those places, but happening upon one recently after a previous post like this, I noticed how poorly the rule was displayed.

Each post should have a stickied mod comment at the top stating commenting is for women only. Otherwise it's easy not to notice what community the post is in that you're responding to, especially on mobile.

You can expect people to know the rules of any community before posting, or take the time to look, or whatever, but the only person you're hurting is yourself for having those expectations.

If your community is public, the onus is on you (or rather, the mods of the community) to make it as clear as possible what the rules are, if they exclude people or go beyond "be civil."