Are puppygirls more of a local thing, or a worldwide thing? And what are the criteria for being one? Does it have significant crossover with the pup/petplay community?
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As far as I know, pup/petplay is an outgrowth of queer male leather with leather pups being the prototype. Ponyplay has similar roots, probably a little more tradionally het. A fair amount of it, especially in porn, is just female submissive cishet roleplay. There is also overlap with furries.
It is relatively common in the straight-ish kink and leather communties in the US. There are leather pups all over gay leather. I can't speak to the lesbian communties.
If you're in the US, get involved with your local bdsm/kink community. Saw a girl come out as a hu-cow for the first time at a recent event.
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For trans women who haven't or don't intend to get bottom surgery: What is the line between a man who just happens to enjoy a good penis and likes yours, vs someone who is fetishizing it? I have never pursued a trans woman (to my knowledge), but as a dude who thinks some cocks are nice regardless of who they're on, I always wondered how you approach that approvingly without seeming objectifying.
Another consideration is how the penis is related to in terms of your gender, if a guy is into the woman because she has a penis, does he see her penis as a woman's genital, or is it still male?
One way to explore this is to ask how you would feel if the penis were not used for penetration, not even used erect - would you still be attracted to her if her penis remained flaccid and was stimulated more like a clit?
If you want her primarily to take a "masculine role" in bed, and you primarily want her penis to function like a man's penis, the appeal might be motivated from a place that on some level still thinks of her and her genitals as male.
Sometimes it's just about the novelty and taboo, which are frequent objects of sexual desire (think of how popular incest porn is, etc.). Sometimes it's about a repressed bi- or homo-sexuality, where the woman with male genitals becomes an ideal basis for fulfilling some of that forbidden desire.
Simply seeing the gentials as male is probably common, and on its own isn't the biggest crime, but if that translates to not seeing and treating her as a woman I think that can be really problematic.
The issue of objectification is separate, and I would even argue some objectification can be desirable in sex (or at least aiming to never objectify does not seem like an absolute ideal), we sometimes wish to be sexual objects (whether that's healthy or not) - but we rarely wish to be seen as men.