Let's Chat

74 readers

5 users here now

A community to chat with others about anything.

founded 2 years ago

MODERATORS

What are peoples opinions and thoughts on finding new love after divorce or break up after a long term relationship and the struggles associated with it (hilariouschaos.com)

submitted 1 day ago by Snatchdaddy@hilariouschaos.com to c/letschat@hilariouschaos.com

2 comments fedilink hide all child comments

Just general thoughts are needed, if you choose to get into personal stories that’s up to you

top 2 comments

sorted by: hot top controversial new old

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm divorced, I fell in love again. It happens all the time.

But, there's no guarantee any time you fall in love that it will last the rest of your life. We only have so much time, and we can only meet a very small number of people in the time we have, and that means some of us, or more honestly, most of us never find the "love of our lives". But, maybe that's not even what you want...

Spend some of your time understanding yourself--accepting who you really are, and what you really want out of a relationship, that's very important. And, again, you don't have much time, so it's best if you can do this sooner than later. Failed relationships will teach you more about who you are, if you're willing to look at yourself, rather than blame the other person for the end of it.

[–] Snatchdaddy@hilariouschaos.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Well spoken, i blame myself more than anything for my first marriage. I married the first girl that put out basically and it was a huge mistake. Although i learned valuable lessons along the way like working hard to support a home and such we were never really meant for each other. Verbal abuse was constant and the environment toxic, eventually leading to cheating with others on both sides although she started it. Looking back i would’ve got to know her better instead of first date sex but then again i was 19 and it seemed like an awesome deal at the time. I just wished that 13-14 years weren’t wasted on that but hey you live and learn. After leaving i found myself scared because im although i desire love i wasn’t sure if i could go through it again so i slept around. This was a mistake as it didn’t make me happier and i don’t look back in awe of any of it. I’m not sure if ill find “true love” if I’m even capable of it, or if I’m even capable of it and that’s what rattled me more than anything. I’m not perfect and no one is but add time goes on i see the flaws in myself and although i try to improve done things are innate. I need to work on my impulsive response more than anything and learn patience. So am i ready to move on after 3 and a half years, who knows. I’m ready mentally but an i ready to throw my flawed self at someone else…. That remains to be seen.
In conclusion i think I’ll try to find love again; but I’m nervous and scared.