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[–] bytesonbike@discuss.online 23 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Hot take: the current trend of publicly broadcasting how scientists are losing funding for pointing out facts with diseases and vaccines is showing us what they used to do - investors burying stories they don't want to admit.

Maybe historians originally did call them what they were. But their investors got pissed off and "calling them roommates" was a way to do their work and still feed their family.

[–] TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago

I don't know about investors, but in the past it is not uncommon for researchers to have inherent biases. For example, scientific racism was definitely a thing.

[–] okamiueru@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Please feel encouraged to specify that this current trend mostly applies to USA.

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 58 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Excuse me wile I eat my roommate's ass

[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 43 points 2 days ago (1 children)

waits patiently, occasionally glancing at watch but in an unbothered and nonchalant way

[–] AlexanderTheDead@lemmy.world 31 points 2 days ago (1 children)

taps on shoulder Hey, is this where we wait for Berengaria_of_Navarre to eat their roommates ass?

[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, there's complementary refreshments over there points at table in the corner laden with fruit, pastries, coffee, and soft drinks

[–] AlexanderTheDead@lemmy.world 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

i peruse the buffet before me Such a generous host! i start drinking the coffee

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

i brought toum and napkins! am i late for the ass eating?

[–] thefluffiest@feddit.nl 71 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] pruwybn@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 2 days ago
[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 2 days ago (2 children)

i wana be left grl or right grl doesn mattr i dun evn need othr grlz rn i jus need be a grl

[–] SparrowHawk@feddit.it 2 points 1 day ago
[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

You’re a lovely girl, Maria 😄

[–] A_norny_mousse@feddit.org 21 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Is this refering to specific historical figures?

Or just that homosexuality was way more widespread than history books would make us believe?

edit: thanks, my question has been answered.

[–] MeatPilot@lemmy.world 31 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Just referring to situations when there is obviously a homosexual relationship and some historians description will say "best friends" or "roommates" because they are so arrogant or bigoted they can't see it for what it really is.

Mostly seems to happen with women, because god forbidden two women love each other before the current era.

For example this would be incorrectly labeled "two roommates startled well getting dressed for dates with their boyfriends."

[–] Aqarius@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago

There's a meme that historians are willfully blind to obvious gay relationships of historical figures.

The reality is, as usual, more complicated, but the versions of stories that reach the general public aren't really known for nuance.

[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 7 points 2 days ago

It's just referring to the common pattern of history books and information at places like museums erasing gay people by calling them "friends" instead. Including stuff like two men buried together in ways that only married couples would have been in their culture or paintings that show two women very obviously being intimate in some way in a bed being labelled as two "good friends"

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

In conclusion, please find and offer the sexy time to your nearest, local historian.

Maybe try something like a clever redefinition of 'bookworm' or asking if they'd like to participate in a bit of practical, contemporary, anthropological research in the field, as a pickup line, I dunno.

[–] j4k3@piefed.world 16 points 2 days ago

She was the one with the ferryman right? Some phaontom