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I used to have a job adjacent to the gaming industry, I went in a number of gaming stores to try to find partners for the products we were selling.
I could talk at length how sad and strange gaming stores are, but I just wanted to share one incident where I was in Phoenix in August and entered a small shop in a business plaza that looked relatively clean and new on the outside.
On opening the door I was hit with the worst BO wave that has ever crashed over me, and having been in gaming stores before, this says a lot. There were some young guys sitting at tables surrounded by backpacks, which I can only assume were full of fermented roadkill, and playing various games, looking up curiously as I tried my best to smile and nod a greeting. My eyes watered and I left immediately because I felt like I was going to vomit.
I checked up on the store 6 months later and it had closed doors pretty fast. I can't imagine why they wouldn't get business.
The memes and jokes are not an exaggeration. Gamer boys are TERRIBLE at self-care and hygiene. I don't know why it's so hard to reinforce the concept to people that just because you can't smell yourself, it doesn't mean you don't smell, you NEED to shower, change clothes, all of them, including and especially socks and underwear, and you need to clean your fucking rooms, your rooms are stink nests and that smell seeps into EVERYTHING.
You know how angry incels will vomit spiels online how frustrated they are that they get the advice to "just shower?" I love this common exchange because I know for a fact that probably more than half of these boys screaming online how nobody wants to touch their weewee are also completely disgusting and do nothing to maintain and manage themselves.
The thing is you can smell yourself. I can smell when I stink. How can you not notice that rancid smell following you is you?
That's because there's some times when you don't stink, so you've had time to learn the difference. Some people always stink, and they forget what clean smells like
When my parents bought their house, there were hoarders renting out the lower flat. when they opened the door, it smelled awful. Kids being kids, I just flat out asked one of their kids "Why does your flat stink so much?". They told me, it does not stink ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. So you can get insensitive about stuff like that.
On another note: my wife can taste stuff I cannot taste. I can see better than other folks while my hearing is really bad. So senses work differently for different humans. So while I can smell myself as well, that does not need to hold true for others.
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My theory was that it was so many teenagers traveling a long way to a big tournament who couldn't afford to just get a hotel room the night before. So they'd sleep at their friends house or whatever, and then just show up in whatever condition.
But having the problem at the local game shop kind of defeats that theory.
Pre-pandemic, we had a couple (as in they are together) over for supper. They've been friends with my wife for over twenty years now. They've always been into board and video games (each has their own gaming rig and every console), and overweight. Something had recently changed because their higiene had been ok so far. At some point in the conversation, it came up that they had done some research and found that IT WASN'T HEALTHY TO SHOWER EVERY DAY. They were now doing it once a week since "they didn't exercise anyway". Obviously, they smelled and I made that clear. We didn't hear from them for some time after that. These were two adults who had jobs and owned a house. Mind you, their house cleaning habits had also deteriorated.
They're not wrong necessarily that it's not strictly necessary to shower every day, depending on a variety of things like your daily habits and work, your overall environment and how clean you keep everything around you, how often you change your clothes, if you sweat a lot or have a lot of body oils, if you cook a lot, and so on. You can get by fine with light cleaning and a shower every other day if you have a simple, inactive lifestyle that doesn't make for conditions that make your body smell, and it might be healthier for your skin.
But jeez, always shower before going out to socialize, that's the part that baffles me... sure you can live fine with... once a week(?!) if you're at home and not expecting company, but to use that as a rationalization for being that lazy is just a sad glimpse into people with problems.
Yeah, they cherry picked the parts "of their research" that suited their laziness. Where I live it's humid in summer and jacket, gloves & hat in winter (again, pre-pandemic times). He had to take a bus and subway to get to and back from work, every day. Even if he'd manage to get a seat all the time, there's no way he'd make it without breaking a sweat just from walking.
Lazy people are gonna lazy.
Went to PAX, the rest of the convention floor smelled fine. The smell at the tabletop game floor hit hard.
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i need something like this for people who have smoked in the last 12 hours. everywhere.
The card "Cleanse" was banned for being "culturally insensitive"...
IIRC, it was Yu-Gi-Oh! players that were infamous for weaponizing their smell to distract their opponents.
My local store just smells like cardboard, ink, and paint, even during the MtG tournaments.
Usually these signs exist for that one depressed dude who no one wants to say anything directly to but desperately needs someone to tell them it's a problem.
This is fresh in my mind because I just took my kids to a game store to buy a gift for someone who wanted Pokemon cards. Big mistake.
Unfortunately I picked the day they had a MTG tournament. We barely got inside when the wall of stench hit us. One of them noticed a guys hairy ass crack hanging out as well. They were very verbal about both and I don't blame them.
Decided to just go somewhere else because it was unbearable. The whole ride they couldn't stop talking about how it smelled like unwashed ass, BO, and sour milk.
Raggardusch (Swedish, trans. Greaser shower): a shower taken in deodorant spray
That's a pretty great description for the Axe body spray target demographic. A raged douch, if you will.
In the Netherlands we call it a French shower, I don't know why. (But i can guess)
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Love Lemmy going full nerdstank in the comments.
Don't take life advice from Redditor types example #353257774
Uh... I have the ABCC11 gene so I don't have body odour and don't wear deodorant. Can I come in?
you have the ABCC11 gene so you can't smell your body odour. go shower
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I don't know about her genes, but I once had a coworker who you could tell didn't use deodorant, but in a clean, freshly-showered way. I absolutely adored her smell when we got into a situation where she was reaching up very near me. It wasn't like the nothing or soap smell you get after a shower, but a human smell. It made me feel very content.
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I really want to go down to one of the local spots and play, but I'm kind of terrified of what I'll find there.
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a magic the gathering store…that requires basic hygiene before coming in? that shit gonna be empty
I love the feeling of being showered, wearing deodorant, cologne, and putting on freshly washed clothes. Along with having fresh breath after brushing my teeth.
It's just so much more pleasant for everyone. Smell good, look good, feel good. It does wonders for your confidence.
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Attend a LEGO convention every year and they always post a reminder as it gets closer to bathe and wear deodorant.
The bathroom in my LGS literally has free deodorant openly available for use, and the owner reminds everyone whenever the store is really packed for an event. Unfortunately some people still do not get the hint.
24? who gets smelly after a day?
Almost everyone. Especially those who don't think they do. Ah hem.
FYI - you do not need to shower daily.
Although you can never admit this publically, as it has become the social expectation. But feel free to move to an alternate day shower routine if you haven't had a sweaty day. I guarantee no one will notice. Your skin will be less dried out. You'll save a not-insignificant-amount in water and energy and time.
Body odour comes from not showering for very many days, and more so from wearing unwashed smelly clothes.
You don't need to shower daily. You absolutely do need to wash yourself in some other way, like with a washcloth. Unless you have no BO at all, more likely than not that bacteria colony under the armpits will make you smell bad regardless of if you had a "sweaty day" or not. Plus, wearing clean clothes helps a lot.
Anecdotally, I went to a gaming convention once and that taught me to never do it again. The smell was so bad. Living the stereotype. And on a recent concert I had someone stink so bad in front of me, it ruined the experience.
Also, as a side note. The article giving an example about why someone doesn't shower being not liking having wet hair. I've heard this once. Do people not know they can just... tie their hair in a bun if it's longer or just avoid wetting it if it's short?
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Yous be surprised.
And this is clearly on a door to a card shop. Magic tournaments are infamous for individuals that have terrible hygiene.
Pretty sure you should be paying attention to the spirit of the rule, not the letter.
Everyone, trust
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