Good. I came out as bi to my cousin yesterday. I've actually been having an ok week. I hope things stay ok
Gonna be going to climb Mount Fuji in 2 days. Super excited about it and looking forward to some time off work
Please share some pictures here :)
My wife is having cardiac surgery right now, I am staying at a hotel near the hospital, working remotely, trying to keep busy and not think about it too much.
I'm very sorry to hear that. Hoping the surgery goes well ๐
Just created my account here in the past day. I know it probably can't last, but I don't think I've had that "cozy" feeling right away in a forum or other online community like this in decades, and I'd say it was somewhat rare even "back in the day."
So far folks seem to live up to the stated goals of the place and I think that's pretty great.
To cap off one of my strangest days in recent memory, I just got a call asking if I can go to England all next week to accompany a choir tour. Nothing's confirmed yet, and I'd have to pull some major strings to get out of my obligations here. However, I'd really love to go.
Unfortunately, we're moving a few days after I'd get back, so I'd pretty much dump all the packing on my partner. She says I should go regardless, but I definitely don't feel great about that.
I also just finished up a take-home interview project for a part-time software development job. I've been trying to break back into that world for some time now, so I'm very excited about the opportunity.
Choir tours are great fun, hope yyhave a good time!
I should be going on tour with my choir next summer. Looking forward to it
Yeah. I just finished a book that I really enjoyed called A Day Of Fallen Night which is a pretty cool to The Priory Of The Orange Tree if you've heard of it. It really was a great read, but the pacing and chosen method for organizing the various character viewpoints made my skin crawl more than once. It was frustrating, but one of those books that I really wanted to read regardless.
There is once a book that I read through, because once I'm committed I find it very hard to stop reading, but it was by far the most horrendous experience ever because the author didn't use quotes for the entire book and I had a real hard time following the dialogue.
Just finished also a couple of novellas which were a really nice and different from the more intense (e.g. action heavy) books I tend to read. They were the first books I've read where the protagonist is non-binary and referred to as they. It was challenging in some ways but also very good for me as well. A Psalm For The Wild-built and it's sequel A Prayer for the Crown-Shy.
Writing styles can certainly make a break books.
That Meltdown book looks interesting!
I desperately need to read Priory! A Psalm For The Wildbuilt was so good, was short but probably my favorite read of the year! I've been meaning to get to the sequel but haven't managed to find time
The sequel novella is just as short, but I was fortunate to be able to read them back to back. I enjoyed them so much and found them so refreshing in so many ways.
I don't remember The Priory having the same pacing issues as it's prequel, so I hope you really really enjoy it. And to be clear, I liked the prequel a lot too.
I'm burnt out and can't focus at work. Really wish I had more that 2 weeks of vacation time a year
It's okay. I hit a new weight high of 129 lbs (I am 5'11" so hitting as low as 119 is fucked) but now the idea of eating even more is extra nauseating and unappealing. About to see my therapist though and they'll be thrilled with the gains. Anyone else fucking despise food and eating and biological needs??
I've been trying to pull myself out of a depressive episode. No luck yet.
my weeks been great, been eatin dino nuggets and watchin movies
Yesterday was my first day back at work after vacation (just chilled at home knitting and listening to audiobooks for a week) and it actually went incredibly well. I'm on a new ADHD medication that seems to be working without much side effects at all wbich is a huge relief and hopefully will really positively impact my productivity at work.
Me and my partner had a good and productive talk about our communications, and that was great.
It is absolutely ridiculously humid AF outside so the little thunderstorms we've been having this week have been a nice little break, with the added excitement of wondering if the power will go out and if so for how long.
I've read three books so far this week and am on a great series by Samantha SoRelle that I'm really enjoying.
Hope everyone is having an awesome day.
Itโs alright. Just came back to visit my parents and just canโt help but think why is relationship so hard for me for some reason lmao.
Preparing to go to a national park, one that my mother has been excited to visit for the last decade... Yellowstone!
We got very affordable flight ticket prices, and the whole family's gonna be extra busy after this summer, so I'm hoping it turns out nicely. Also excited to try out my new binoculars! I want to see many borbs ๐ฅบ
My mother got put back on her disability benefits and now I'm hunting down apartments for us to live in to get out of a bad housing situation that we were stuck in because it was cheap and we only had one income.
Got two viewings this week.
Hey!
I'm actually having a really sad week. My mother had a heart attack on Saturday evening (really unexpected, no history, they still don't know why) and collapsed. She lost oxygen to her brain for about 10 minutes. I'm trying to help my family and my dad through this time and I am finding anecdotes about people recovering (even if hard fought) but it's hard because she is still not really responding to verbal communications. I remain hopeful that it will get better but can't help the intrusive thoughts that the wonderful woman who raised me may be gone.
If anyone has been in a situation similar and has advice, I am all ears!
I apologize for the downer, and hope everyone else is doing better than I am.
Not exactly the same but my grandmother had a stroke that left her unable to care for herself although mostly mentally intact. She was miserable and never adjusted. It was hell, and everyone was relieved when she died. I know that sounds horrible but there was nothing we could do to ease her suffering.
All I can really say is that brain injuries are awful, even if things turn out as well as they can the road there is going to be hell. Remember to take care of yourself, you'll have days of grief and anger when you think thoughts you're not proud of. Do not judge yourself too harshly, or your family.
You will need time and space to grieve and it's going to be very hard to get that at the moment. Try to make space when you can, and understand that everyone else needs that too. You will need support, your friends and extended family might avoid bring your mum up believing that it spares you suffering to avoid thinking about the situation. You might need to be quite explicit with your needs around emotional support, conversations, venting, and advice.
I am sorry, my heart goes out to you. Generally the prognosis for brain injuries isn't good, and it's probably best to set expectations around that to avoid self blame and another round of grief if things don't improve. That said stimulation is important for brain healing, particularly early on. Try to chatter, ask questions etc even though you might not get a response. Play music she likes, try to do things around her/in view. Try physical therapy stuff if she's mobile. Even gentle movement of limbs by another person can help prompt re-connection of neural pathways.
Good luck
I'm hopefully going to meet my boyfriend in 2 days
My dad is going through DTs and I'm on the other side of the world on a business trip. I hope the withdrawal doesn't kill him before I get to see him again.
Not sure what DT is but I hope he can get some help and you see him as many more times as you'd like.
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Can't wait for my thesis overview to be in the past (hopefully I pass! ๐ค)
I finished a meeting that I was dreading for WEEKS. It went ok.
The bad: I made the worst mistake at work I've made so far, so I'm getting started on the wrong foot. I'm doing what I can to fix it, but I dropped the ball on one of my clients, and it's tearing me apart.
Plus, it turns out Chuck Palahniuk is a raging misogynist, so I need to find a different book.
The good: Doggies are cute, and so are kitties
I had a really difficult weekend and didn't sleep much last night, but I did sell a piece of jewelry that I'm really proud of yesterday, so that's a bright spot.
There has been a lil bad and a decent amount of good this week so far
My job's treating us poorly even though we're making the company massive profits in the millions. I would like to leave but I think I've been in this dead end position too long. I might need to re skill but I have no idea what I would like/what would pay enough.
The weekend was busy but a lot of fun. Got to go to my first anime convention. Only went for one day when I could have easily gone for the whole weekend. Next year I'll do that. It was nice because I haven't gone to any events like that for probably about 5 years or so. Usually I'm not tired at night but both Saturday and Sunday night I fell asleep right away which was kind of nice for a change.
Spent the week at a work conference. I normally WFH, so getting to see everyone in person was kinda nice. Got a flight delay going home - no big deal, but I'm anxious to get back home to my dogs and partner.
i've been stuck in a rut now for a couple of weeks, so this week hasn't been any different. i am in a state of living right now where nothing is interesting to me: no games, no movies/shows, no music, not really anything. i am thinking about buying pikmin 4 to help with that. i've never really played any pikmin games but it looks so fun
Massive windstorm came through my area last Friday afternoon. Had like Cat 1 hurricane winds. In the Midwest US. So it knocked down trees and powerlines all over the metro area. I was out of power from 4:00pm on Friday through 8:30pm Monday.
So it was a shitty weekend. I (and my brother who's visiting) stayed in my apartment on Friday night, which was sweltering. Humidity and like 85F (29.4C) temps inside, even with windows open, made it miserable to sleep. Saturday, we spent like 7hrs at my company's tiny office (we're actually full remote) charging up phones and battery banks, while just hanging out and enjoying the AC. But we stayed in my apt again on Saturday night, which was just a bit cooler, but enough that I was able to sleep like 8hrs. Sunday during the day was OK, but then it rained again and got sunny afterwards, driving up humidity. We finally decided to get a hotel room. On Monday, after checking out, we hung out at the local library to work (I could've gone to my office, but I knew a couple co-workers w/o power at home were there). Monday evening was a little cooler again, so we braved the apt, and then the power came back. Even through Tuesday, there were still like a thousand customers in the metro without power. I think the utility is back to normal ops now.
Overall, it just a wasted weekend. It sorta felt like homelessness, especially when going to my office, then to the hotel, then going to the library. At my apartment, it was sorta like camping but way less fun.
At least I had no property damage or injuries. Driving around, I saw lots of trees on houses. I saw at least a few vehicles that looked totally destroyed since trees fell on them. So it could've been worse for us.
I'm trying to find a new job asap! Last week was really the last straw. I was hired for a technical position but for the past two years I've done nothing but punishing manual labor almost entirely unrelated to my job. I don't mind working outside my job description but the reality is I've lost so much knowledge just from being out of practice. I hope it hasn't ruined my shot at the right job. Its technically possible for me to return to school full time but I'm not sure I could 1) make the sacrifices required and 2) actually succeed. I've failed twice already.
I know everyone working out in the field wishes they had a desk job and vice versa, but damn I'd love a cubicle.
Last week my gf and her friends gave me the chance to do something different, so I quit my job (on the grace period right now) and we are starting to figure law stuff out cause we are international
Pretty much like the last couple: Not fast enough during the work parts, the weekend will probably fly by so fast it'll feel like I didn't have one. Rinse, repeat.
Eh kinda shitty, one of my main medications (Subutex) dropped dosage again this week and it suddenly felt like I've been hit with a brick, emotionally speaking at least, bored as hell, tired, no real desire to eat or do anything, etc. I'm close to being done with this medication but the last parts like getting off it at the very end are the hardest.
So far, so good. Optimistic about getting a job soon. :)
Sigh, I'm okay. Work is really stressful lately. I went through an acquisition, and really got demoted in both rank and importance. Defeating, but, I'm also still glad to have a job where I can work from where my cats live.
Been having a long week myself. I could hardly sleep the last two days and work has been insanely busy. I've been spending my weekends doing a second job to try and get out of debt and get experience in a field I want to enter. I am so tired and desperately need a day off, but I feel like if I do, I'll just be depressed all day. Good luck with your reading! I've been reading City of Brass and loving it, hope to get that finished in the next week or so.
Sorry my phone kept giving me a network error when I posted, then it posted like 6 times ๐ญ
Going to see Tori Amos this weekend so I will be giddy all week. Saw her once before 18 years ago, so it's been a long time coming. Can't wait!!
Dealing with my executive dysfunction. I managed to study for 90 minutes this Monday morning, and I tried to continue that same afternoon, but I couldn't do more than 30 minutes.
I need to put my head in order to avoid those situations, but I can't.
I have to give a presentation soon and I am not looking forward to it.
Even worse, today I found the bread and peaches I was gonna eat this week are moldy!! T_T The bread is over a week old so maybe it makes sense, but the peaches I just bought the other day!! It's annoying. But hopefully things will turn around from here.
I created my own Lemmy instance for my small town!
I cannot get anyone to use it at all! I tried to post about it on the local Facebook group and I got banned!
To be fair, I created it to take people out of the toxic shit pile, but the page is called "uncensored" which is a little hypocritical if you ask me.
I think people are weary that it's a "scam" somehow. Even though there are hundreds of fake accounts on the FB group and the page owner is an ultra right wing nutjob and allows tons of troll accounts to run wild.
I have now created my own Facebook group in hopes to draw away members, I will then subtly introduce my Lemmy instance to them.
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