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[-] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago

I tried waiting to come out until the time was right, but it didn't work. I thought simply knowing who I was would be enough to sustain me, but it wouldn't. Not moving ahead in my transition when I could have was a near fatal mistake, so I hope you keep in mind that dysphoria has a way of wearing a person down more as you become more aware of it. I'm not saying you should come out when you're not ready or your environment isn't safe, but it's not realistic to think you can just tank the dysphoria like it's no big deal.

[-] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I haven't actually planned anything. This whole thing is still rather new to myself, and I'm not quite done figuring it all out.

Just wanted to make a quick meme out of it, using an all time classic. At the moment, I'm only moderately sure who this new me is even going to be.

But seriously, thank you. This whole community here really cares, and it shows through comments like yours.

[-] SSUPII@sopuli.xyz 11 points 1 year ago

What are the statistics for?

[-] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's a test that attempts to put you in one of seven gender identites. To be taken with a grain of salt, as with every online test, but this one in particular seems to do a fairly good job at representing how I feel on any given day.

As you can see, the results can't really decide what identity fits me best, which I can confirm as being accurate, because I'm still very confused about who I am.

[-] Jimbob0i0@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago

Which is also fair as the lines can get very blurred dependant on the definitions in play...

Trans/NB/Fluid/queer are all very closely related after all and people can identify with all of these.

[-] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

True. They can serve as good guides to understand who a person is, but at the end of the day, words can be unclear and people are a lot more complex than that

[-] blackluster117@possumpat.io 2 points 1 year ago

Do you have a link to the test?

[-] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

https://www.idrlabs.com/7-identities/test.php

Again, grain of salt, internet is not a medical professional and so on. But I like doing that test every few months or so, because bar graphs pretty.

[-] Coolishguy@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

My biggest caution about this test is how some questions ask about your beliefs about society and gender in general. Someone could be a cis woman through and through but also recognize that someone's gender can change over time, or dislike the gendering of a lot of things in society. I think it reads knowledgeable people who give a shit as being a little bit fluid and a little bit agender no matter what they actually experience of their own gender.

[-] Stovetop@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

This was my experience taking that survey as well. I am pretty comfortably cisgendered, but the test flagged me as agendered, with the #2 category being genderqueer. I am assuming this is because I answered several questions disagreeing with traditional gender identities (read: toxic masculinity) and not having to put much conscious thought into my expression of gender.

The test seems to count a number of items against being cisgendered that I really think should not be the case. Someone can disagree with traditional expressions of masculinity and still consider themselves male.

[-] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That certainly seems to be case, yeah. But I think if someone has given this topic enough thought, they will recognize that and know what to make of the results.

And just generally, these tests surely can point someone in the right direction, but they're absolutely not the ultimate tool to figure it all out. As long as people keep that in mind, they should be good to go.

[-] newIdentity@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This test is kinda stupid. What the hell should I answer to this:

I have rarely if ever, felt that people were incorrectly assuming my pronouns.

I don't care about that. Call me whatever.

Most questions seam to be about gender expression, but I don't actively think about that. I don't actively try to express myself as the other gender.

[-] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Well, that would mean you never felt that people were incorrectly assuming anything, since you don't care. At least that makes the most sense to me

[-] newIdentity@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Yes, but this question probably isn't about that. I think its just asking if you're cis or not.

[-] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Technically correct though.

It's good that you're viewing this critically, tests like these shouldn't be taken too seriously, they're just a rough gauge if anything.

They can serve as a pointer, but they'll never be as accurate as some proper and honest introspection.

[-] newIdentity@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

Yes it's technically correct, but this test specifically feels like it's designed to validate what you're already feeling and is basically useless if you're completely unsure.