Hiya ladies,

With my hair growing, nails manicured, and eyebrows shaped, it's going to become harder and harder to boymode inconspicuously around family or friends (only my partner knows). On the other side of that, I'm nowhere near passing or even presenting femme in public, which makes the idea of coming out quite scary as they're seeing masculinity when I'm declaring femininity.

Part of me wants to wait like two years and then one day suddenly appear as my new completely feminine (hopefully beautiful!) self without any warning or advance notice! So people see the best version of myself, rather than seeing the mid-transition mess I am right now (or pre-transition mess I was!). But realistically I know that's not gonna work!

So I'd love to hear some coming out stories and when in your transition you decided it was right for you! And how those you came out to responded, if you're comfortable sharing that!

Hiya ladies,

Today I'm trying to understand how to let go of the mean, unhappy boy I never wanted to be, and embrace the passionate, loving girlie I dream of becoming.

Before I was brave enough to accept myself I was self-isolating, over eating, and indulging in various other coping mechanisms for short term, unsustainable dopamine hits. I was also mean, anti-social, and very standoffish because I thought that's who people expected me to be.

Now I want to be, need to be, someone completely different, letting out the parts of myself that I suppressed for so long I forgot they were even there. How did you do it? How did you unlearn those almost instinctive behaviours and defence mechanisms that keep people away and keep your real self buried and suffocating?

Thank you in advance <3

Hiya cute exiles!

I think it'd be interesting to know what builds people have tried out so far and how it's gone!

I started out with the comfy EA ballista totems and after that moved on to poison penance brand pathfinder. It's kinda cool but you're definitely fighting against the ramping, both the brand's ramping and poison's natural ramping so even though PoB says its hitting DoT cap it doesn't quite feel that way.

Still, it's super fun to open a giga juiced essence where the monster gets duplicated, attach a brand to both, and watch the explosions overlap to melt them both almost instantly.

Hiya girlies!

Today I'd love for us to share the little tips and tricks that you're proud of, things that help you feel like the best version of you! It could be about anything, makeup, hair, hair removal, voice, mannerisms, diet, exercise, fashion, whatever you learned that had a positive impact on your life that could help another girlie learning who she wants to be!

Something I've been particularly enjoying recently is finding ladies I particularly admire in media and copying the things they say, trying to match their intonation and expression. I know it's not an original idea but it can be super fun and very satisfying when you get it right! :3

Recently I have been struggling a little trying to accept and prepare for the consequences of coming out and exposing this very sensitive part of myself to the world. With the increase in hate crimes and anti-trans sentiment it is a very scary idea.

This was made even worse by a comment I found on Reddit today:

People ask why I bailed on transitioning. It’s not fun having your entire right to exist as a human being used as a political tool. It’s exhausting. I don’t want to have to spend my life justifying who I am to people who frankly don’t give a shit either way. They just want to hate me. 15 years ago nobody gave a toss which toilet I used in public. Today I’ll get spat on while waiting for a bus because I dared wear a dress. Not once in my life in this country till about 5 or 6 year ago did I ever feel scared for my safety for being who I am. I may be miserable now, but at least nobody is spitting on me anymore.

So I'd love to hear other's perspectives on what they've actually experienced and how they have dealt with it. I am sorry for raising such a painful topic but hopefully it can help people.

Hiya! I have a known good Ubuntu 22.04 USB that has worked on other devices, but when I try to install it on this PC I get a blank screen with "stdin: Invalid argument" repeated 30 times or so, and at the bottom it says "Unable to find medium contained a live file system" and then attempts to boot from URL. (For some reason lemmy won't let me upload a picture!)

I've tried multiple different USB ports, I've looked at the BIOS and can't find any secure boot or legacy stuff that needs to be disabled. Not sure how to progress!

Help would be greatly appreciated <3

Hiya girlies!

From tomorrow I am visiting my partner's highly Catholic, Eastern European parents, so I will have to pretend to be a boy for like two weeks straight.

I already know I'm gonna feel disgusting when I get back.

So what things do you do to feel cute and feminine? I'd love to have some nice things to try when I am safe again.

Thank you <3

Hiya, I hope everyone is having a comfy weekend (:

Today I'd love to read people's perspective on their vocal training. I'm barely a day in, finding numerous exercises and opinions and coaches from various backgrounds. And of course practicing for myself.

My question right now is per the title, how important are the technical aspects of finding the right voice, versus simply practicing and re-training your vocal muscles? My femme voice is too breathy and it sounds forced and I have to stop myself elongating words to hold the higher pitch.

I'm wondering how you find the difference between actually doing something wrong (or falling in to beginner's traps), and just needing to speak that way more frequently and for longer periods.

I'd really appreciate any tips, on this or in general, or even questions from other people! As I don't see a vocal related thread posted here recently.

So this was me, a couple of weeks ago.

Up until last night I was still struggling, until I watched a trans affirmation video, the part where the woman filming it instructs you to repeat your feminine name aloud to yourself.

This is something I had never actually done before, and the power of the right name, one that is really yours, is truly astonishing. It only took saying it a couple of times for the euphoria to hit so hard I couldn't stop crying. And that was kind of it for me, really.

What's the point of having an easy life and money in your savings account if you want to throw yourself off a building every day?

I don't really have a choice anymore, even though it would maybe be easier and safer if I could reject her. Amelia is just who I am.

So what should your newest girl buy herself to celebrate falling to the radical trans agenda? (: