[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 50 points 1 year ago

This thread is full of people laughing at people who would pay for this, but I actually kinda empathize.

I got REALLY lucky and met my now fiancee on a dating app. It took about 2 years of trying to meet her, and in that time ithink I had maybe 5-7 dates. ALL of those were on OKCupid, back when it let you message people without matching. I am not the most good looking person, but I could get a good first impression through a message.

Tinder though? It killed my self confidence when I used it. I never got a single date from tinder. It is designed tonot get you dates, unless you're SUPER attractive, especially if you're a man. A lot of it is that there are so many more men on dating apps than women, I know that objectively. But it SUCKS when you're actively looking for a partner and swiping every single day to either never get matches or get matches who are bots.

For a lot of guys like me being able to get a good first message in feels like the only chance, and if you're seriously looking and starting to feel desperate (and these apps are designed to make you feel desperate) then dropping $500 for a month of being able to get a shot may not actually seem crazy.

These apps have designed a "dating economy" around themselves that tells people that they are not attractive or a desirable partner if they aren't getting matches, then deliberately tailored their algorithms to manipulate people into coming back every day for a chance to meet someone. It's slot machines, but with romantic relationships, and it convinces people that dating is like gambling. And these apps want you to feel like they are the only way to date, and if you're not "winning" and getting dates they make it clear that it's YOUR fault, and if you drop a little money you'll get some matches.

Yes, some creeps will pay for this to send dick pics, but I think most people who will pay forthis are actually desperate and convinced that it's their only chance at getting a date. It's disgusting these apps are allowed to do what they have done. And I say all of that as someone who won the damn slot machine jackpot and came out with a long term partner.

I personally think these apps are doing some serious harm to our society and need to be regulated but that's a different discussion

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 79 points 1 year ago

I hate the crypto market so much, but ESPECIALLY nfts.

Nfts were blatantly a scam. It 2as a very in your face scam, it was giving money to someone else for literally nothing. It was obvious time from day 1 that it was just an avenue for rich people to launder money and have it look legit.

But the media fell for the new trend hook, line, and sinker. Instead of telling people it was a scam from day 1, which it *obviously was," the major news networks (at least here in the US) talked about nfts as if it was a legit new type of cool investment. They stopped short of telling people to buy them so that they couldn't get sued, but they hyped the fuck out of NFTs. CONSTANTLY. Any time I listened to any cable news for more than 30 minutes around mid 2021, I heard NFTs get mentioned at least once, and very rarely was that mention skeptical or a warning.

And now all the people who bought into the hype are left holding the bag, as always, a d the rich people who scammed them get to keep all the money, as always, and the media is facing no repercussions for their contribution to the scam, as always. It's so frustrating to watch

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 52 points 1 year ago

The thing is this shit works for right wingers. They genuinely believe that the ADL calling someone an antisemite, or even suggesting they might be, is the same as the government kicking your door down and murdering you because you used "free speech"

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 140 points 1 year ago

I still don't see how it's legal for an accredited university to have rules prohibiting sexual activity of their students

Want to be a religious school? That's fine, but you won't be accredited to teach any Gen Ed classes. Have your catholic pastor school, or your rabbinical school, that's fine. But you won't be making those into general education colleges.

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 105 points 1 year ago

I genuinely think that advertising should be illegal at this point. It's a ridiculous concept.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/privacy@lemmy.ml

Hello! I stumbled on a post a while back about privacy tools. I can't seem to find it again. I had bookmarked a few sites it linked to and finally got around to looking at them

One of those websites was Safing. I hadn't heard of it before. The website says that it's a firewall tool, but I can't seem to figure out why it's better than the Windows default firewall. Does anyone here use it? What does it provide that Windows doesn't have built in? Is there an avantage to using it if I have a PiHole on my network/use a VPN? Is it meant to be a single-machine firewall or a whole-network firewall?

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submitted 1 year ago by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/plex@lemmy.ml

So I have a kind of interesting situation going on here. I recently replaced my gaming rig's 2080 with a 4070ti that I picked up at a good price. Then, I put the 2080 into my home server and got it up and running with plex.

Now, it has always been my intent to put that 2080 into a computer for my fiancee after we get married sometime in the next year. So, that leaves me with a conundrum: when I pull the 2080 out, I'll need a decent GPU to replace it with for the plex server to help with transcoding. That's why I'm here

What GPUs should I look at? I don't want to break the bank and would prefer to stay under $600 when I do this, if possible. I'm not getting a Titan X which I keep seeing recommended, I can't even get one of those for my own gaming rig let alone for a plex server that only we and a couple of friends use. I'd like something that can run up to 4 4K transcodes at once- I don't think we'll ever get more than that running at any given time since most of the use this server gets is in the same house via direct play, no transcoding needed.

Any suggestions?

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 188 points 1 year ago

Corporations when some dude steals a copy of a 30 year old movie: 😡

Corporations when they steal billions from their workers salaries every year: 🤑

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/selfhost@lemmy.ml

I've NEVER had this many problems with a docker container before, this is getting WAY past the point of being ridiculous.

I'm trying to set up the nextcloud AIO for docker behind NGINX Proxy Manager. Right now, I have everything set up such that I can go to the URL that I set up and get to a nextcloud page.

But the only page I can access is an error page that looks like this:

I have no idea how to fix this. I've already set 'maintenance'=>false in my config.php file. I'm completely at a loss here, I can't do ANYTHING else in nextcloud other than look at this stupid error page. The AIO documentation is completely worthless here, it doesn't give any guidance. And google isn't helping either, every thread either says to add the above to my config (which I obviously already did) or just restart apache (which I've also done). I'm getting seriously annoyed with this and I'm about to give up altogether unless someone here knows how to get past this stupidity.

Edit: Okay I've done something REALLY stupid now. I figured I could just re-install nextcloud to see if I could fix this. So, I removed all of the containers, deleted the data and database folders, re-made the folders, and re-deployed everything. Now NOTHING works and I can't get nextcloud to re-do its initial setup. But it looks like now maybe it is? IDK I'm lost here, I'm annoyed and it's late and I should probably stop.

So apparently nuking everything and letting nextcloud re-install itself fixed this, somehow. I have no idea why.

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 64 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If you're using git to track document changes then you're almost certainly in the tech industry and are quite familiar with the inner workings of your computer.

For 90% of people using computers right now, asking them to use git to do version management on their day to day work flow would be like asking me to fly a rocket ship to work.

I agree with the OP here, for what it does office is leaps and bounds ahead of any of the other software I've used to try to replace it and I always end up landing back on it.

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 62 points 1 year ago

And it was the cop whose rights were violated, not the guy who they were shooting at for no reason.

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 77 points 1 year ago

That won't stop the far right from turning him into a martyr

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submitted 1 year ago by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/firefox@lemmy.ml

I switched back to firefox last week because I wanted to get away from Chromium. I was previously using Brave.

I have been having a MULTITUDE of issues with FF this week, and if I can't figure out how to resolve them I'm going back to Brave. I've tried everything I can think to do to fix it, and nothing has worked. I've never seen any of these issues on any other browsers, this is 100% a firefox problem.

I'm on the latest build of FF on Windows 10 and have the following plugins:

  • Bitwarden
  • UBlockOrigin
  • Simple Login
  • Multi-account Containers
  • ProtonVPN
  • Old Reddit Redirect
  • RES
  • Enhancer for Youtube

The issues I'm having:

  1. Occasionally FF just hangs, won't respond to inputs, and the only way to recover it is to kill the process via control panel. When FF crashes like this I NEVER see the crash reporter, it's like FF thinks nothing happened and everything is fine.
  2. Sometimes my tabs just don't work. Like, I'll open a tab, type something in to search it, and it just hangs. I had this problem for YEARS when FF was my daily browser before switching to brave 2 years back because it got too annoying. This issue is COMPLETELY RANDOM, and happens within 1 minute of making a new tab- sometimes it will happen when I first try to navigate anywhere inside the new tab, sometimes it happens after I'm in a website.
  3. Sometimes FF refuses to start. I'll turn the computer on, click FF, and nothing will happen- then I'll go into control panel, kill the FF process, and try again until it works- usually when I do this the browser crashes at least once when it starts.

I can't make any sense of why this browser is so unstable for me, but it is SIGNIFICANTLY worse than it was last time I abandoned FF. I actually have FEWER addons than I did when I used FF as my daily driver before. If I can't figure this out this time I'm just not going to look back.

I have tried:

  1. Safe mode. This seems to fix it for a bit, but eventually either tabs stop working or the browser crashes. I'm pretty confident this is NOT an issue with any of my plugins- I'm using either official FF ones (multi-account containers) or very reputable plugins from good sources.
  2. Turning on/off hardware acceleration. This has no impact whatsoever
  3. I have repeatedly deleted all cookies, history, and cache, and reset the startup cache.
  4. Clean install FF
  5. Refresh FF
  6. Last time I tried to fix FF before switching to Brave, I found that having the FF Profiler running AT ALL TIMES actually seemed to make things a little bit better- but the profiler never once turned up anything useful.

I'm at my wits end here. I really want to be able to move off of chromium but FF is so incredibly annoying to use in its current state that I simply can't do that until I find fixes to these issues. Has anyone here got any clue what else I can do to try to diagnose this?

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 59 points 1 year ago

Man his divorce really fucked him up didn't it?

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 49 points 1 year ago

I saw a little of ben Shapipos reaction to it through a leftist streamer.

It was hilarious. He was literally mad that a core message of the movie is that you can be whoever you want to as a woman.

Thats the slogan of the company Ben, idk why you didn't know that.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com

I have a few videos I ripped from CDs that I'm loading onto a personal plex server, but all of them use the type of subtitles that will force the video to transcode.

Is there an easy place for finding .srt files? I figured this community would know...

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I just got my home server up and running and was wondering what you guys recommend for backups. I figure it will probably be worth having backups on cloud servers tjay are external, are there any good services yall use for that?

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Why does every small appliance or useful home electronics item have the BRIGHTEST LEDs in them?

I bought a new fan for our bedroom Sunday. It has 4 speed settings, and LEDs to display which setting you're on.

Just like every other electrical device in our bedroom, I had to cover the LEDs with electrical tape because they are TOO DAMM BRIGHT. That one light was more than bright enough for me to see in the room with all the lights off.

I can't sleep well if there's a lot of light like that, especially blue light, and it's like every fucking electronics manufacturer used the same extra bright blue LEDs.

All of our power strips have them. Same brightness.

The fans have them.

Don't even get me started on digital clocks and the plague of bright LEDs that they bring about

Many charging plugs have them built into the plug itself.

Even some fucking light switches have them now!

I have about 6 different things in our bedroom that have electrical tape over their completely unnecessary LEDs.

Why has this become such a common thing? Is this really something most people want? To have a room that is never actually dark even with the lights turned off?

[-] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 74 points 1 year ago

It's not cheating to hire the workers you unceremoniously fired to save money asshole. It's called capitalism.

Then again, every super wealthy capitalist doesn't actually want capitalism. They want feudalism, where nobody else is allowed to compete with them and if someone makes them angry they can banish them from society without trial.

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submitted 1 year ago by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/aww@lemmy.ml

She loves this cat tree. It's in our kitchen next to a window, she sits up there whenever we are cooking or eating.

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submitted 1 year ago by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/aww@lemmy.ml

We have 2 cats and 2 dogs. You've seen 3 of them now.

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submitted 1 year ago by Landrin201@lemmy.ml to c/aww@lemmy.ml

She came with the name when we rescued her. We call her Ethel most of the time.

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He's a full-bred Bernese Mountain Dog, he's a real sweetie.

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