saying people shouldn't be put into boxes is one thing
saying people shouldn't put themselves into boxes is another
like it or not, the gender boxes are going to keep existing for our lifetimes, and railing against them isn't a task to be undertaken lightly given how thoroughly delighted terfs are to weaponise any such instance against the trans community
if you take comfort in boxing themselves up, you do you
women are socialised to read more, so unironically yes
it's kind of telling that in the two examples you gave one of them actually was gender-linked
the concept of gender is very interwoven in society. changing it is not easy.