Rachelhazideas

joined 2 years ago
[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 31 points 2 years ago (23 children)

This may come as a surprise to you, but people often deliberately mislabel themselves for credibility, or believe themselves to be something that they are not. For example, so called 'leftists' in the US are actually centrists and by international standards.

You are holding all women feminists accountable for the actions of a few self-proclaimed women feminists. That is not infantilization, that is pointing out the impossible standards that women are held to by anti-feminists and how some women will always be blamed for the actions of others.

Lemmy's userbase is problematic because often times people don't think about whether or not their experiences are relevant before speaking. Judging by your condemnation of feminists because of misandrists who claim to be one, you don't seem to understand that feminism is fundamentally about equality and bringing men and women up to par with each other. This goes beyond just women's rights. Feminism is just as much about making safe spaces for discussions about men's mental health, male sexual assault victims, paternity leave, custody, and so much more. The reason why these things are not accessible to lots of men is the same reason why women aren't being treated as people. It's because of systemic patriarchal barriers that force men and women alike to conform to certain detrimental behaviors or be ostracized.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 40 points 2 years ago (25 children)

Leave it to Lemmy's 77% male userbase to discredit the entire feminism movement because some self-proclaimed 'feminists' are misandrists and TERFs in sheep's clothing.

Women are always held responsible for other people's behaviors. Holding the vast majority of normal feminists who just want to be treated like people accountable for the actions of a crazy minority of men-hating folks is just another example of this.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 11 points 2 years ago

As someone who got fibromyalgia in their 20s, that's what life is like.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

A body being there makes it completely different because the normal forces exerted on that body are redirected to the thrusting body.

Not saying this is easy, but it's like asking a man to do air squats and equating it to what it's like for women being on top.

Leave it to people who've never had sex before to think this is what it's like.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Cantonese: 陳大文 (can4 daai6 man4) Japanese: 山田太郎 (yamada taro)

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Not saying this is the case for you, but some people use 'dark humor' as a front for thinly veiled racism or sexism and the deliberate offense is what's not tolerated.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago

^OP when they remember 23% of Lemmy's userbase are women

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

Because Lemmy users are 77% men. Jokes like this are excused with 'satire' and if you aren't one of them you wouldn't get it.

Inb4 the hate, let me absolve with satire as an excuse before any of you start overreacting.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 8 points 2 years ago

Good for yourself and all, but just as a reminder that Christmas can be secular and anti-capitalist at the same time. You don't need to exchange gifts, be religious, or have any beliefs or traditions about it.

It can just be an excuse to get together, cook, and have dinner. It doesn't need to be elaborate either. Christmas for many people just means a time of the year you set aside to appreciate family, friends, and loved ones.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Girl boring guy quirky.

(definitely not casual sexism)

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

Girls hate it too!

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