I read your post last night, thought I'd reply this morning and am disappointed in the replies you've already had. So you've got issues with your self hosting, and it annoys people you haven't figured out the solution?!? Odd.
Anyway, well done on recommending Runtipi as I've never heard of it and looks interesting. I'm on the look out for things to recommend to people, and that looks good.
As for what else there is, there was a thread here this week asking similar, and lots got mentioned in there. I'm too lazy to find the link, but dig about on the 1st page. Most have already been repeated in here already.
I think self hosting is a journey, where you learn as you go. It's all part of the fun of it. And perhaps using a platform that has a healthy amount of solutions already posted is the key for you rather than focussing on a one-click interface. I myself use Unraid, and that community is full of Q&A for every type of user.
I guess there is no one-size-fits-all for self hosting. We all have different requirements. Mine is NAS based, so hence Unraid. I think mostly we all rotate around the core of photo storage, and Immich is likely what's fuelling a lot of self hosting now as it's a legit alternative to Google Photos. As I've moved out of the Google eco system now for everything; it creeps me out to think how much of my information they used to have access to.