[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 40 points 1 month ago

Ok but for real tho. The average American severely underestimates how far you can get on rice, beans, lentils and chickpeas.

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This discussion was inspired by discussion on this post.

Toxic man: oh guess I am just gunna keep doing what I am doing if you aren’t going to tell me what to do.

The reason this comes up is that masculinity is largely based around externally conferred social status. You have to constantly be doing something to maintain an image of masculinity. Often this means some sort of social or physical violence in the right time or place (beat up the mugger to defend your partner, call out your boss when you're being treated unfairly, put rival men in their place). Just as frequently, however, it is the expectation of a certain amount of self sacrifice (paying for meals, military service).

What they don't understand is how anyone can expect them to maintain their social status when they are avoiding this role that they have been explicitly shown that there will be consequences if they fail to meet. The answer is simple: once you're out of the masculinity rat race, you're out. By refusing to take part in the hierarchy of dominance you will eventually be subject to a more general and, frankly, human set of standards.

The only problem is that all of these pressures are external in the first place and this whole dynamic creates strong social gender boundaries. It is very easy for a lot of men to look at their social circles and see exclusively people who punish them for a failure to live up to a masculine ideal.

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[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 37 points 7 months ago

Seems to me the most likely explanation is they got caught and fixed it.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 47 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

This is super exciting. I think one of the things a lot of people are missing here is the potential for small wikis to augment existing fediverse communities. Reddit’s killer feature has always been the massive treasure trove of information for hobbyists and niche interests. There is huge potential in the fediverse to take advantage of that sort of natural collaborative knowledge building process.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 61 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

The devs actually talked about this in the AMA from a couple of days ago. Sounds like the current plan is to have all federating servers send their entire list of communities to each other on a regular basis.

The other thing that I think is worth mentioning is Lemmy Community Boost which is basically a bot that serves the same purpose.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 58 points 9 months ago

I think how quickly this project has gotten to near feature parity is a testament to how slow Lemmy development has been. Think about scaled sort (a feature that has been hotly requested since the migration) and how long that took to get merged in. A sort should not by any means be slow to implement.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 57 points 10 months ago

The existing industry that's popped up around LLMs has conveniently ignored that what these models are doing may have been illegal the whole time and a lot of the experts knew it. This is why it's so important for folks to realize that the industry is not just thin wrappers around ChatGPT (and that interesting applications of this technology are largely being pushed out by the lowest hanging fruit). If this is ruled as not fair use then the whole industry will basically disappear overnight and we'll have to rebuild it from scratch either with a new business model that pays authors or as open source/crowd sourced models (probably both). All that said we're almost certainly better off. Open AI may have kicked off the most recent "gold rush" but their methods have been terrible for both the industry at large and for further development of the tech.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 36 points 10 months ago

Most of this growth is in the bisexual demographic who are still severely undercounted. Not sure what this data says but bisexual men frequently self report at lower levels than gay men. Internalized homophobia really does a number on folks.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 37 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

These days, there is also the official guided installer for arch that may be worth a try. I had similar issues with Manjaro, but since this has been around I've never had a reason to try any arch derivative.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 40 points 10 months ago

I think it's telling that flipboard's received a fairly welcoming reaction from the larger fediverse, while threads had huge backlash. Meta and their practices were always the problem.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 52 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Eh with how this conversation has been evolving lately I'd say this is the worst time to be pessimistic about the possibility of regulation. Is a good time to be loud and angry about it tho

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 36 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Captain Disillusion! More VFX than anything else. He debunks viral videos and explains how the effects are achieved.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 49 points 1 year ago

You really made about 20 comments before doing even a basic amount of due dilligence, huh?

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