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Rant about "having ADHD is not an excuse for everything" (reddthat.com)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by souperk@reddthat.com to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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If you haven't heard this cliche while discussing your neurodivergency with someone, then I envy your luck. Yesterday I fucked up, I feel shitty, but also I am pissed.

Our brains are impulsive af and tend to forget the most important information. We mess up, our RSD (and empathy) kicks in, we feel terrible, we vow to be more careful, but guess what? Thats fucking exhausting.

As a result, we start overthinking our every waking moment, stressing over every little thing. Because, we are trying to be aware of the things we cannot perceive.

At some point, hopefully we realize that we cannot live like that, and we start to arbitrarily ignore our compulsion to overthink. Most often that works out great because most often the threat is not real, but sometimes we make the wrong call.

The times we overthink are still more than the times we do not, and we still mess up. Let us have our fucking peace.

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[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 10 months ago

The way i think about this is that it is an excuse, but it's not an excuse to not try to work around it.
We all do our best, and for some that really isn't a lot and that's FINE! But there are also probably ways you and others can find that enable you to do a whole lot more, which benefits everyone.

As a really really concrete example: I simply do not have the mental energy to constantly take proper care of my teeth, so i don't try to hold myself to that standard since it would eat away at me and make me fucking miserable.
However i also don't just give up, instead i do my best to brush when i have the energy for it, i take flouride pills to strengthen the teeth, i try to avoid sweets and stuff that harms dental health, and i literally just swish some water around my mouth every time i drink (this dislodges the food scraps and adds a little bit more flouride to the teeth).

Yeah it's not as good as properly brushing my teeth regularly with toothpaste, but it's the best way i've found to take care of my teeth while still being mentally sustainable, and that's all you can ask.