Oh BDSM in general isn't like that, sure, but I'm in a submissive focused discord and there are many people there who have lifestyle dynamics similar to the one in the post. Like yeah the poster doesn't know what they're talking about but those kinds of dynamics certainly do exist. They're not something I'm comfortable with, self discipline has to come from the self and to me having discipline for life things like that come from your partner enforcing that on you feels like a crutch that I'm not ok with personally, but ykinmk and all that.

It's honestly kind of interesting to me, I think dynamics fall onto a spectrum of being controlled to being taken care of. I mean that in a general sense, not specific things like aftercare. Like yes caring for and about your partner is an important part of any relationship but that end of the spectrum falls more under parental care in my mind. I'm certainly no expert, lifestyle dynamics aren't for me, but I like lurking and observing because I think it's neat.