Everything is a balance and people are different anyways. I don't know many people who like any of the extremes. But it's a different amount for everyone. And the "partner" thing is strange anyways. As long as you're madly in love, you probably enjoy hearing about every pea in their canteen meal. That might fade after 20 years of marriage. Or a stressful day at work. Or with kids. Or it doesn't. Both is fine. As long as it's consenting partners. 😆