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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[-] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 11 points 3 weeks ago

I think in the second half you're asking whether butches are more likely to be toppy and femmes are more likely to be bottomy.

I think there's probably some positive correlation there but butchness and toppiness are distinct concepts.

[-] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago

Things about this post:

It's concise, and address the initial post
I've never heard the terms 'toppy' or 'femme' used in this way, but I'm happy that I have now.
Is 'Butch' PC these days? I'm old and can't keep track.
It has the feeling of being written by a professional Lesbian scientist on their lunch break at work.
I love it.

this post was submitted on 24 Oct 2024

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