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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[-] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 88 points 3 weeks ago

Hi! Not strictly a lesbian here but in a lesbian relationship. Yes, lesbians have top/bottom dynamics typically in the "one doing the action" vs the "one being acted upon" across various different acts. Most switch it up ("vers"), rather than identifying primarily as tops or bottoms. If you are strictly a top or strictly a bottom, you're described as "stone" as in "stone top" or "stone bottom".

Very important that these are completely different roles than dominant/submissive/switch, which are BDSM terms and describe a more psychological aspect of a relationship than the more physical top/bottom/vers.

[-] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 28 points 3 weeks ago

I always wondered where Steve Austin got his name from.

[-] teawrecks@sopuli.xyz 3 points 3 weeks ago

I always assumed it was his nickname from when he worked at the creamery.

[-] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

Nope. Turns out he's just a very inflexible lesbian. Who knew?

[-] hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago

I mean looking at him I can see how he's not very flexible...

[-] Zahille7@lemmy.world 8 points 3 weeks ago

Whatever you say, Stone Cold Growsomethinggood

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