CRPGs fundamentally ask the player to self insert into the player character, and drag will take psychic damage if drag self inserts into a man. Drag is perfectly happy to self insert into tragic stories like KOTOR and feel bad as part of a game's story. That's the same as watching a sad or scary movie, that's fine. And drag would even be willing to enjoy Torment's dysphoria if it were an intended part of the experience, and you're actually able to play the Nameless One as a dysphoric trans person. But gender dysphoria that isn't accounted for in the game's design doesn't lead to catharsis. That's just feeling bad with no purpose to it.

Drag isn't mad at the developer for this. As you say, the developer is dead, so there's no point being angry. Drag is angry at Steam for selling this game without a content warning. Drag is angry about false advertising. This should be a part of the store's interface, the same as age ratings, or the recent decision to force games to disclose kernel level anticheat.